Former Cult Members Share The Exact Moment They Realized They Were In A Cult
A cult is a group that shares religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and uses psychological coercion to brainwash its members. Cults usually have a self-appointed leader who dictates over the miniature totalitarian society. In extreme cases, the wealth a cult accrues is often not shared amongst its members but is directly pocketed by the leader. Once a member, it is sometimes very hard, to escape, both mentally and physically.
Many people believe religions like Jehovah’s Witness and Mormonism are cults. Some even think all religions are cult-like, including Christianity and Islam. It’s often difficult to realize you’re in a cult while you’re in it, but if and when you eventually do, it tends to be a shock, much like what happened to the majority of these former cult members who have shared their stories below.
#1 No Outside Reading Allowed
I said, “Well, I just like Road and Track magazine. I don’t think that’s anti-religious.” He replied, “That material will cause you to lust after material things, and you shouldn’t read that.”
It was at that point I knew I had to get way out of there.
#2 The Compassionless Leader
#3 Some Cults Are More Subtle Than Others
I was accidentally in a religious cult. I would see how the pastor would treat people who didn’t comply with what he wanted and I would think, “I hope he doesn’t start acting this way towards me.” He would berate people, gossip, expect us to stay at his house until late hours, forbid us to hang out with non-members, and he even asked me to move in with him when I already had my own place.
I noticed it was a cult when I told them I was hanging out with an old friend and they preceded to ask why was I doing that.
I came to a service that following Sunday and the pastor says to me, “I had a message I was going to preach, but I’m going to preach a different message today.”
The whole service was pretty much him talking badly about me and making rude jokes. I knew this sermon was about me when he kept referencing a “person” who was hanging out with other people. He kept saying it was sinful. I never felt so embarrassed in my life with everyone laughing at me. I sat that entire service just embarrassed.
Once I left, several of the members attempted to contact me with a few of them trying to “go to the movies” with me at midnight when they knew very well the closest movie theatre was an hour away and didn’t show movies at midnight.
After I stopped going to that church, a few of the members completely stopped talking to me despite us being “friends,” and I still can’t believe that happened to me.
#4 What Was Once A Normal Church
I left but heard some insane things afterward. I was lucky as I came from a really complicated low socioeconomic background and when I moved to a university, there wasn’t much fight for me.
#5 Not The Kung Fu He Was Looking For
#6 More Of A Cult Than A Religion
#7 Exorcism Is Never Sign Something Good Is Going On
Looking back on it, the way the community practically worshipped the leader, hanging onto his every word, really should have tipped me off. They would literally agree with everything he said—what they should name their new baby, what movies were evil, what would bring the devil into their lives, etc.
The biggest red flag I can’t believe I didn’t notice at the time was when he decided one of the kids in the community was possessed and needed an exorcism. That kid was me.
I won’t bore you with the details but remembering that years later is what made me finally realize, “Wow, that was a cult.”
#8 No Questions Allowed Whatsoever
When I was told, I couldn’t ask questions. I was 14.
All that did was make me ask more questions.
I ended up at the public library reading up about cults.
#9 Acquiring Knowledge Is Not A Sin
#10 Recruit People Or Else
I knew I was in a cult when they made it clear I wasn’t good enough for them. It wasn’t enough that I showed up, paid money and contributed to the group—there was always this hint of disappointment that I couldn’t bring in more people, through subtle hints like, “You can bring other people if you’d like! We’d love to be able to save your loved ones,” to, “Why don’t you ever bring people in? Your loved ones deserve to be saved!” People who were social and outgoing were described as the most desirable people to invite into the church. My pastor straight out said, “We aren’t going for the loners you see sitting alone at lunch. We need to go for social kids with groups of friends all around them. It’s our goal to save as many people as possible, so we need to go for them!”
#11 Donations, Donations, Donations
My parents were in this religious cult that always asked for crazy amounts for donations. It even sent families out to pioneer for the religion. We were one of the families.
Then, coming to Canada, we had financial and immigration issues. The organization immediately distanced us. Only then did we realize this was not what we thought it was.
The way they motivated people was like any cult I have heard of.
#12 A Jesus Camp From The Inside
It ended up being an ultra-religious camp. We had to give our phones up when we got there.
The first hour of the day was praying. Then a 30-minute breakfast followed by another hour of praying. Then two hours of alone time where you couldn’t go back to your rooms or do anything other than sit and “talk to Jesus and God.” Then another hour of praying.
Then another 30-minute meal time.
Then a 30-minute prayer.
Then a good four to five hours of free time to do all those activities.
Then another hour of prayer.
Then a 30-minute dinner.
Then prayer time, once again.
They led us on a march to a big fire and made us lie down in a massive field staring at the stars while they chanted prayers over a microphone one night that week.
#13 The Heinous Crime Of Watching Chris Rock Be Funny
The idea that something so innocent as comedy on YouTube could be “a grievous sin against God” struck me as beyond ludicrous and awakened a very cynical part of me. And so the journey of searching for truth began.
#14 The Cult Of Higher Education
This cult was called a Ph.D. program in research science.
#15 The Lies They Made Him Tell Went Too Far
I was forced to do demolition on an old VA hospital that they owned in Little Rock, Arkansas.
I’m 31 and I still have dreams of that place.
#16 Sacred Handshakes
#17 Corruption Is Strong In This One
#18 Where Did His Privacy Go?
#19 Marry Young Or You’ll Never Get Married At All
I was 16 and started receiving incredible pressure to start finding a husband. Daily pressure from multiple authorities in the church. At one point, a religious leader tried to forcibly push me into a room where an eternal marriage class was being taught. I literally had to cling to the doorframe and say repeatedly, “I am not going in.” He played it off like he was joking but I was counseled by another religious leader and a family member to find someone before I was on the shelf.
I was 16.
All of my friends except two in that religion were married by 19. One of those girls was married by 21 and the other came out as gay.
#20 What Would Jesus Do?
When they stopped allowing children who had gay parents to be baptized. They claimed to believe in Jesus and I knew that Jesus wouldn’t do that to kids.
#21 “Do Whatever It Takes To Get Him Back”
I was briefly associated with Lifespring. I walked out of one of their training sessions. Two Lifespring members, one of whom was a friend, came to my house and tried to push me into coming back. At one point, the not-a-friend member laid hands on me and tried to force me into his car. My friend finally broke with him at that point, saying, “Stop, we weren’t told to use force.” Later, he said to me that they had been told to “do whatever it takes” to get me back.
#22 “The First Thing To Know Is We’re Not A Cult”
#23 Cults Really Like To Start On ‘Em Young
This was in the late ’90s. The culture was this insane throwback to the 50s, which they revered as the golden era of Christianity. It was… bizarre.
#24 Just Another Day In Montana
I realized I was in a cult earlier this year.
Everything seemed okay until the cult started to force people out of their homes. I wasn’t one of them, but I noticed businesses were getting shut down.
The whole town was getting weird. Vehicles, shops, and farms were all converted into “outposts.” I couldn’t buy anything or drive anywhere without the higher members stopping me every time. They would intimidate you with guns.
Eventually, the National Guard came in and stopped them. Just another day in Montana.
#25 The Moment In A College Anatomy Class You Realize Evolution Is Real
#26 Beware The Reptilians
I was 16 and knew they were full of it.
#27 Cults Where You Least Expect Them
#28 Who Doesn’t Want To Feel Special?
#29 Demons Couldn’t Scare Him Into Staying
Then eventually I was being told I had invisible swords stuck in my body and I could only remove them by being more spiritual (getting more involved in the group).
This was a red flag for me because I had just seen a documentary about Charles Manson’s mind-control techniques and the “invisible swords” thing was one of his.
Also, everything bad in these people’s lives was caused by “demons.”
The last straw was when they were sensing I was ready to back out, they told me a very powerful demon was in the group who liked to jump from person to person, and it would “try to separate me from the group”.
So, hi demons, it’s ya boy.
#30 Your Church Is The Only Church They’re Calling Out
#31 Manipulation Is The Name Of The Game
#32 Brainwashing Is Only The First Step
#33 The Clues Are So Hard To See From The Inside
I had my first inkling that I was in a cult when I was standing in a room dressed in robes, a green apron, and a weird hat practicing secret handshakes and signs while pantomiming ending myself. Oh, and when I had to stand naked under a sheet while an old guy touched different parts of my body to bless them. Oh, and when a group stood in a circle and chanted words in ancient Adamic while raising and lowering their arms.
Yeah… and I still ended up going on a mission for them and staying until I was almost 40.
#34 The T-Shirts Tipped Him Off
#35 Typical Mormon Behavior
Then researching stuff and learning that the Mountain Meadows Massacre wasn’t the first or last in Utah, but just the largest example of typical Mormon behavior of the time, I wanted nothing more to do with it.
#36 All Good Until Step 12
#37 Casual, Healthy Groups Aren’t Hard To Leave
#38 The Cult Of White Supremacy
When the sacred book told me that we didn’t “hate” minorities, we were just superior to them because of “science”. Also, the fact that it constantly portrayed itself as a “religion” and not a hate group.
#39 Not Her Choice To Make
When I was told that the hijab was a choice, but when I wanted to take it off it wasn’t seen as my choice to make.
#40 The Church Should Never Have That Much Control
When moving across the state for college required approval from the leader of the church.
#41 First They Make You Cry, Then They Make You Pledge
#42 Textbook Cult Behavior
E.g., Brother Gary, Sister Jackie, etc.
When there were only strict rules for women but none for men…
When someone decides to leave the organization, and you could no longer talk to them, shunning them completely…
“Oh man! This is definitely cult behavior!”
#43 God Speaks Through This One Pentecostal Church Leader
When the leader of my small independent Pentecostal church made it compulsory to attend one-on-one counseling sessions where he would tell you what God told him he wanted for you to do.
#44 University-Style Cults
But honestly. I was told what I could and could not wear, how I should act, and who I should be friends with. We had weird rituals we performed every week and if you didn’t do something right (drank too much at a party, wore sweats to class during an important week, hung out with guys during recruitment) you were put in front of a board, and they decided whether you were worthy enough to stay in.