The saying "nice guys finish last" definitely bears some truth in real life. Often times, girls who reject the "nice guys" they come across typically feel a sense of regret, especially after they get hurt by the "bad boys" they went with instead. Unfortunately, it isn’t always easy to tell the difference between the real nice guys and the fake nice guys, which can sometimes leave women in uncomfortable and dangerous positions. Hopefully, “nice guys” will someday realize how uncomfortable they can make women feel. If that ever happens, there will be a lot less of the stories like the ones you are about to read.
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#1 She's A Queen And He Knows It
I moved to another state with my sister and she made some new friends. One of them begged her to set me up with him and I reluctantly agreed. She assured me that he was a very nice guy. On our first date, he kept gushing about how gorgeous I was. He even told me he was going to make me his queen and take me around the world. It was definitely flattering, but I just wasn't that interested in him. After our dinner, I made it clear that I was only interested in being friends, but he continued to beg my sister to get me to go out on another date. I declined and we moved back home.
A few months later, he came to visit us. I didn't want to invite him into our home, but out of courtesy, we did anyway. He wouldn't stop looking at me. Luckily for him, it was my birthday and I was in a really good mood, so I just rolled my eyes and told him he could come out with my group of friends.
At the bar, he was really into me and I was getting annoyed because he wouldn’t let me relax. At some point during the night, I told him in front of everyone that I really only saw him as a friend. He then threw a fit, yelling at me and saying what a horrible person I was for leading him on. I ended up crying because it was so embarrassing.
My guy friends went to “talk” to him after they heard what happened. The next morning, my sister told me that he said he was really sorry. He wanted me to say bye to him at the airport. I obviously didn't.
#2 Must Have Been Quite A Pizza They Shared
He was a friend of a friend, but we hung out with the same group of people and always went to the same parties.
The guys in the group would always say things like, "Ah man, you and Kyle would be so great together! You should give him a shot!" I'd kind of laugh it off because I already had a boyfriend.
When my boyfriend and I eventually broke up, Kyle asked me out. I wasn't really ready, but I figured it was just a first date, so I agreed. Plus, everyone had been pressuring me into giving this guy a chance, so I felt like I couldn't say no.
The whole evening was awkward. We just ordered a pizza and watched movies, and he would NOT STOP STARING. I couldn't even eat because I felt like I was under a microscope.
After our date, we kept in touch through text. About a week later, he asked when we could have another date. I told him that maybe I had rushed into things too fast and that I just wasn't feeling any connection with him. Then he dropped a bomb on me:
"I BROKE UP WITH MY GIRLFRIEND FOR YOU!"
Yup. When Kyle found out that I was single, he dumped his girlfriend of eight months just so he could ask me out.
The timely cherry on top is that they got back together. I haven't seen him in four years.
#3 That's Going To Be A No From Me, Dawg
All my friends told me this guy from our group of friends was really nice, even though I felt like he was creepy. I gave him a shot and we went out once, but I regretted it immediately.
He asked me if I'd be interested in entering a relationship with him, and I said no because I truly wasn't interested. He then said that saying no was disrespectful. Big yikes.
After that awkward date, he came over to my place, completely uninvited. He asked me if he could ruffle through my hair because he wanted to feel my scalp. He also kept asking me to sit closer to him, even though we were already next to each other. He also thought it was a great idea to mention that he heard voices in his head often and has dreamt of hurting people.
I immediately rushed him out of my apartment. I just wanted him to be gone. I checked my keys five times to see if he took any. He is, by far, the most creepy, socially inept person I've ever met. He's so aggressive and impulsive.
#4 But Is He Really "Genuinely Nice," Though?
He seemed nice enough, so I thought I'd give him a chance. Now I regret it. When we went out on our first date, he acted extremely snobby towards me. Every time I offered a contradictory point of view on any general topic of discussion, he would immediately disagree. And when he couldn't prove me wrong, he would resort to mocking my appearance, attire, and personality, That was the last date, obviously.
#5 He Sounds Like A Stalker, Mom
During my first week of college, I was in the dorm common room going through the calendar on my phone. I didn’t realize that some guy was looking over my shoulder as I was doing so.
He went up to me and said, “I see you don’t have plans on Saturday. We’re going to breakfast.” I obviously objected, not knowing who the heck this guy was, but he just wouldn’t leave me alone. He just kept asking and asking.
Eventually, I agreed to go out with him. I was purposely on my worst behavior in an attempt to repulse him, but I must have not done a great job because he ended the date by calling his mom and telling her that he met his future bride.
He then handed the phone to me. I told his mother that I had absolutely no interest in her son and that I was only there because he wouldn’t leave me alone. His mom laughed and said, “Sounds like my boy!”
After our date, he would regularly sit on the couch outside my dorm door and wait for me to come outside. He followed me to and from my classes for two months and tried to befriend my roommate to get closer to me. He gave up after some time and moved on to another target who, apparently, ended up getting a restraining order against him.
#6 Nice Guys Won't Guilt You Into Staying
I was guilted into a one-year relationship with this one guy. He was super nice at first, but I was also young and naive.
I realized quite quickly that he wasn't for me. We just had very different political views and opinions on things. He was also very judgmental. He often made fun of my weight, and that really crushed my self-esteem.
When I finally mustered up the courage to tell him that I didn't want to be with him anymore, he guilted me into staying with him, saying that I'd never find another guy who'd love me as he did. He even said he would hurt himself if I left him.
Eventually, I felt like I ran out of options and ended up just ghosting him. I changed my number, deleted social media for a couple of years, and moved out of my apartment. I never heard from him again, thankfully.
#7 Sounds Like He's In It For The Green Card
The date kept getting weirder and weirder as the night went on. He made really intense eye contact and told me about how he didn't drink. Like, we were at a bar. Who goes to the bar sober?
He also told me of his plans to stay in the country (he was a foreign student) and find someone to settle down with...
#8 Makes Sense Considering He Clearly Hates Women So Much...
We went on one date. He went on and on about how horrible women were and how gross their periods were. After our dinner, I never talked to him again.
A couple of years later, a friend of mine bumped into him at a party. He was in a room getting freaky with another dude.
#9 I'm Sorry, Who Is The Bad Friend?
In college, I got out of a three-year relationship and went into a pretty deep depression. My friends wanted to take me out to a club because they thought it would help me get my mind off of my ex. I reluctantly went.
After the club, we went back to my apartment. A couple of people we didn't know ended up coming with us. One guy who was pretty tipsy went into my room and passed out on my bed. When I was ready to head to sleep, I woke him up and told him he could have the couch if he wanted. He said he lived just down the street, so he decided to head home instead.
The next day, I saw him on campus and he proceeded to berate me for not letting him stay in my bed. He then took it a step further by telling me he felt like I treated him poorly for not sleeping with him. I stopped talking to him entirely after that.
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#10 Always Trust Your Gut
He brought flowers to my dorm and everyone saw. They assumed we were a couple. He made small talk with a few people as he waited for me in the lobby and even added them on Facebook, saying he would "definitely be seeing them again."
He did a lot of things "nice guys" are expected to do. He opened the car door for me, paid for dinner, etc. But I could feel that underneath it all, I was accumulating some sort of debt; as if he expected me to owe him something in return for his chivalry.
My gut feeling ended up being right. When I told him I didn't want to see him anymore, he started harassing me and saying that I owed him a second date. Gross, I know. Eventually, I just stopped responding to his texts. I realized afterward I should have trusted my gut and avoided him in the first place. So I'll take the blame for that.
#11 This Guy Needs A Reality Check... And A Lesson On How Not To Be A Misogynist
He seemed genuinely nice. Despite a couple of my friends warning me, I went on a date with him.
Things started out fine. We went for beer and wings and we tried to get to know each other better. At some point, he started talking about how he'd like to make enough money to support a housewife. I told him that I was personally not interested in that sort of life and he got very quiet.
When the time came to pay for dinner, I asked for the bills to be separate, and he got very upset with me. The waitress was visibly uncomfortable and I didn't want to argue, so I just let him pay. He walked me home, said our goodbyes and I made my way to the door. He ran after me, held the door as I opened it and asked, "Where's my kiss? I paid so I deserve a kiss... or more." I shook my head, shut the door and locked it.
A few days later, he to told some of our mutual friends that I was in love with him. I guess he just couldn't take the rejection and had to lie to make himself feel better.
#12 "I Mean It's Crazy." "What?" "We Finish Each Other's—" "Sandwiches!"
I was the girl who loved bad boys.
The nice guy in my life had been my best friend for a number of years and I always knew he liked me, but I was busy chasing mean guys.
We grew up together and he watched me pick all the wrong people. Other friends kept telling me to give him a chance, but I just never listened. Two years ago, he asked me to come over for dinner. It seemed fairly casual until I realized he’d asked me for Valentine’s Day. I can’t say I was guilted, but it still felt a little awkward.
I was nervous thinking it was gonna be so weird but when I turned up it was fine. He cooked a meal, bought flowers, opened a bottle of wine, offered me chocolates and lit candles on the table. I don’t drink much, so he ended up getting through the whole bottle of wine because he was so nervous. Still, it was a lovely evening and things felt very natural.
Fast forward a few years later and now we're approaching our second anniversary. We share a lovely home together, look after a beautiful (but evil) Egyptian Mau cat, and we couldn’t be happier. We even finish each other’s sentences and never run out of things to talk about. He is genuinely the best thing to ever happen to me. Sometimes the nice guy does win!
#13 Ah, Jealousy At Its Finest
I didn't date him, but we were good friends in college. He was also very close with my boyfriend at the time. We used to chat for hours at night and he was a fun person to be around in general.
One night, he sent me a long letter, confessing his interest in me. I was really surprised because I had never noticed any signs that he was. I told him I really cared about him as a friend, but that I wasn't interested in him in any other way. I also pointed out that I was still dating his friend.
At that point, he sent a wave of hateful messages, calling me "shallow" and saying that I only liked my boyfriend for his appearance. You think you know a guy...
#14 Boy, Bye!
He was the nicest guy I’d ever met. Super sweet, charming and all that good stuff. But it turns out he was only good at acting nice, sweet, and charming.
From time to time, his self-centeredness and manipulative nature would slip through his act, but I always hoped he’d grow out of it. For the record, he did not.
#15 Sounds Like She Needed A Megaphone
I wasn't guilted into going out with the guy, but we were coworkers and I knew he liked me. So when he asked me to play pool with him after work, I told him that I'd go as long as he understood we would just be hanging out as friends.
After our pool night, he asked me if I wanted to play laser tag. I said ok. Then he asked me to dinner. Once again, I said okay, but told him I'd be paying for my own bill since it still wasn't a date.
Halfway through dinner, he went to the bathroom and sent me a text message officially asking me out on a date. It was sweet, but I replied that I was still only interested in being friends. He got really upset, left the restaurant and never spoke to me again.
#16 Is Age Really Just A Number?
I went out with this guy I met while I was alone in a cafe. I was 17 years old at the time and he knew that.
Eventually, I found out that he was 30 years old... It creeped me out because he knew my age from the beginning and still wanted us to go out. I was a dumb kid.
#17 This Girl Was Told By The "Nice Guy" That She Would Get Fat From Eating
I worked with a guy who, after he found out I was divorced, asked me out on a date. I refused because I felt it was too early for me to be dating again. He started sending me emails at work asking me to give him a chance. He kept saying that he was a nice guy and that I wouldn't regret it. After some deliberation, I figured I'd throw the guy a bone.
On our first date, he kept telling the female server to stop me from eating my dinner because he said I was going to get fat. He thought it was the most hilarious thing ever. Let's just say that first date was also our last.
#18 I Guess Mom Doesn't Always Know Best
I went on a blind date with some guy who my mom set me up with. He picked me up in his truck and off we went. We went to the mall and saw a movie, then walked around and shopped for a few things.
After a while, I got my period. I get really bad cramps, but I was ashamed to tell him, so I just told him I wasn’t feeling well. After that, his mood totally changed. He brought me home and didn’t talk to me at all on the way.
When he dropped me off, I told him I had fun with him and that we should see each other again. He just looked at me while I closed the door and left. No words, nothing. I know he thought I was pretending to be sick to get out of our date, but it sucks because that really wasn't the case. What a shame.
#19 Uh, You Know You're On A Date Now, Right?
It was more curiosity than guilt.
His profile was okay—he seemed like a nice guy; the kind who opens doors and pays for everything. He arrived first for our coffee date, so he bought himself one and sat down. When I arrived, he never stood up or offered to buy me one. Not that I cared, but in his profile, he said it was what he liked to do.
He spent the whole date complaining about how hard it was for him to find dates, and how he was going speed dating the following week.
I didn't bother pointing out that he was already on a date.
When I left, he didn't open the door for me either. In fact, I think I opened it for him.
I wished him well at the speed dating.
#20 "We Could Move To Alaska Together"
He told me we could move to Alaska together... on our first date.
#21 Oh Come On, He Couldn't Even Pretend To Like Them?
I went on a date with a guy to a pancake house. I recommended the banana strawberry Nutella pancakes because I had them once and they were delicious. He took my suggestion and ordered them, but didn't touch his plate for a full fifteen minutes.
I asked him why he wasn't eating and he said he didn't like strawberries.
I almost ended the date right then and there. I don't understand why on earth he would order food he hates. It was just plain moronic.
#22 Just Let Him Be The Gentleman!
I dated a guy in college who didn't have a car, so I drove everywhere. On one date, I parked the car when we got to our destination and got out before him. He screamed at me for not waiting until he got out of the car first. He wanted to run over and open the door for me. The relationship did not last very long.
#23 That's Worse Than A Marriage Proposal
He told me he was excited about the possibility of getting into a relationship with me. He also said he couldn't wait to delete our individual Facebook profiles so he could create a joint one for us.
#24 Stalkers Can Be Nice Too, I Guess...
Everyone said he was very nice but also extremely shy. We started dating and it was pretty boring, but at least he was a great listener. He was attentive and seemed interested in my hobbies.
Though, it bothered me that he never had any stories of his own. He probably retold the same two stories over and over. I know not everyone is terribly exciting, but he was a lot older than I was and he was always talking about his bucket list, so I expected him to be much more interesting.
As soon as he sensed that I was starting to lose interest, he would panic and start watching me. I would be talking on the phone and he would be waiting nearby, peeking around corners. If I caught him doing it, he'd have something like a snack or mail handy to pretend to be doing something else. The longest I noticed him lurking was during a 30-minute long phone call I had with my dad. I could see his shadow underneath the door, lingering the entire time.
I broke up with him after I realized the extent of his lurking. I felt a little bad because he truly was a nice guy, but the lurking just creeped me out too much.
#25 This Guy Doesn't Sound Nice In The Slightest
I dated him after several people convinced me to give him a chance. I went along with it because I didn't have anything better to do in the 10th grade.
He ended up leaving me three months later because he got super paranoid. I needed to take time off of school for a few weeks because of a surgery, and he thought I just made the whole thing up to get some space from him. It didn't matter that I could show him the scar when I got back.
#26 Sounds Like A Manipulative Sociopath To Me
He asked me out to lunch and I said okay because I had been friends with him years. When we sat down, he told me he had a brain tumor and that he needed to confess his love to me before it was too late. I was not about to be the girl who turned down the guy with cancer, so I reluctantly said okay.
Three months later, I found out that he knew the tumor was benign the whole time. He toyed with my emotions so that I would go out with him.
#27 Was She Being Punk'd?
I wasn’t impressed with his limited conversation topics and obvious attempts to show that he was “not like other men.” When he saw that I wasn’t having a great time, he cut me off mid-sentence, hugged me, and said he was going to head home. Very weird experience.
#28 He Just Broke All The Rules Of Snapchat... And Dating
A really nice guy had been asking me out constantly in my DMs and I figured I would give him a chance. The date was okay—the conversation didn't flow well, but I didn't hold that against him. We ended up getting coffee and taking a walk around town... which ended up being a five-mile walk. At that point, I was ready to go home, so he walked me to my car and I drove home.
Here's where it gets weird: As soon as I pulled into my driveway, my phone blew up with Snapchat notifications. The guy sent me three minutes worth of Snapchat videos confessing his love for me, begging me for a second date, and saying all the minute details he found attractive about me. My drive home was literally 10 minutes long.
#29 Makes For Some Interesting Water Cooler Gossip
He became a creepy stalker and I pretty much had to tell him to leave me alone or I'd call the cops on him. Oh yeah, I also work with him.
#30 There Seems To Be A Good Reason Why This Guy Doesn't Have A Girlfriend In The First Place
I broke up with a guy after only a few weeks. He said I owed it to him to help him find a girlfriend because I wasted his time.
#31 Sometimes, It Just Doesn't Work Out And That's Okay
I went on a date with a friend from high school who also happened to be my ex’s roommate. It was a quiet date even though we’d known each other for years. He was nice, but nothing ever happened. Later on, I set him up with my sister-in-law. They dated for a year. Now he’s married (to someone else) and has an adorable son. We’re still friends, 20 years after we met.
#32 Nice To Hear Some Heartwarming Stories
I married him! Literally the best, most reliable guy who supports me in absolutely everything. Gives me everything I never knew I needed. He is my absolute hero and I couldn’t be happier!
#33 "Sometimes A 'Nice Guy' Is Actually A Nice Guy"
When I was single, my sister was planning a party and mentioned that her boyfriend's very nice, very single friend would be coming. When I met him, he was shy but sweet. He later messaged me on Facebook and asked for my number since he was too nervous to ask me in person.
We talked for a bit and went out on a fun date. Then another. And another.
Four months later, we moved in together. Now, it's been five years. We're married and have a two-year-old little boy.
Sometimes a "nice guy" is actually a nice guy.
#34 Guilt Seems To Be A Common Thread
I spent six years of my life with a “nice guy” and the feelings of guilt never went away. I always felt guilty for being with him even though I knew I didn’t really love him. I got no support from family or friends because they all loved him and couldn't understand why I would want to leave. I became the bad person for leading him on.
It’s been two years since we split and he’s happily in another relationship. We spent all those years wasting each other's time for no reason.
#35 They Do Say That Poetry Is What We Live For
He showed up to our first date with a framed print of an original poem he wrote for me. That lovey-dovey stuff is just not my cup of tea. The dinner was also super awkward. Never again. Never. Ever.
#36 Sounds Very Awkward For Everyone...
My high school friend really, really liked me and kept hinting at a relationship. I tried to drop hints that I wasn’t into it, but he wouldn’t let up. All of our mutual friends were trying to talk me into it. Eventually, we ended up alone and I let him kiss me. He immediately told me he was in love with me, and that his whole family thought we were dating. I told him that I was still not into it, and set the record straight for everyone. It was very awkward.
#37 He Just Wasn't Ready To Let Go
I told him I liked him, but I just wanted to be friends. When he drove me home, he held my hand in the car as if he didn't even hear me. I had to fake a coughing fit to get it back.
#38 It's Okay To Say No!
I somehow ended up in a disappointing two-year relationship because of a guilted first date.
#39 And They Say That Women Are The Emotional Ones...
He was awful—overbearing, possessive, and disrespectful of all my boundaries. He proposed to me once we were broken up and proceeded to marry someone else less than a month later.
#40 This Sounds Like A Sitcom
His mom called the cops on me at our prom because I danced with another boy...
#41 Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
After our initial "date," we stayed friends for five years. Then, we got back together for three and a half years and eventually got married. At the start, I wasn't physically attracted to him and didn't want a relationship, but still agreed to go out with him because he was nice. I told him how I felt and he was fine with that. During the whole time we knew each other, he was an actual friend. It took me living far away from him to realize how much I loved him.
When I went to visit him, we decided that we wanted to be with each other and we've been together ever since. He's still the nicest guy.
#42 "And Proceeded To Draw A Punnett Square"
I met up with an old coworker for what I thought was just drinks. He professed his undying love for me and proceeded to draw a Punnett square of what our future children would look like. Needless to say, I got up and left.
#43 I Would've Just Taken The Jewelry
#44 This Poor Guy...
It lasted two weeks, but only because he asked me out the day before winter break. We didn't even talk to each other once. A few months later, I was talking to my friends who had dated him before, and all 10 of us said we dated him because we felt bad.
#1 And Here's A Happy Ending
We met during our freshman year of college. He was my best friend for months and I wasn’t really into him when we first started talking, but now we’re in love. We have been together for almost a year.
#46 Watch Who You Give Your Number To
I met a “nice guy” over a dating website a couple of years ago. I gave him my number after we chatted for a bit and talked about possibly meeting. When he suggested we meet at a local elementary school in the middle of the night, I said no and made it clear that I didn’t want to meet anymore. He kept trying to convince me by saying he would buy me gifts.
When I told him no a second time, he blew up and called me names. He told me that I owed him $15 because he had already bought me a present for our “first date” and that I needed to meet him immediately to give him his money. I blocked his number right away and didn’t hear from him until the next day when he called me from a DIFFERENT NUMBER.
When I picked up, he acted pleasantly and asked me what time we were going to meet for our date. I told him off and blocked him again. Then, I got a text a couple of hours later from ANOTHER phone number saying that if I didn’t meet him, he was going to do something crazy. After a bit of dramatic conversation, I basically told him that I didn’t care and he needed to leave me alone.
I blocked him and forgot about it. Fast forward about six months later when I got yet another text from an unknown number. I knew exactly who it was when I read the text: “I have $20 and a fun night planned for us. Want to meet sometime soon? Miss you.” I blocked it, then changed my number. I'm never giving it out to a stranger again.
#47 Not A Very "Friend" Thing To Do
#48 A Very Unwanted Proposal
I had a VERY difficult, traumatic ending to a long term, live-in engagement. He went to jail, so I decided to go to Europe to backpack for the summer. My best friend, who is a male, agreed to come along and he was VERY aware that this was a post-breakup getaway intended to clear my head and have fun. He flew out ahead of me to visit his family.
I arrived at the airport to see him waiting for me in Europe on bended knee, ring and flowers and all. I was furious, and that friendship was destroyed. The vacation was equal parts horrendous and amazing, but it ultimately ended with him ranting about it all again in a hostel one night. He became aggressive toward me, and a group of stranger hostel bunkies helped me quietly pack my stuff while he was finally passed out. They got me to the airport immediately. I haven’t seen him since. It's been about eight years now.
#49 That Trick Didn't Work On Her
#50 The Lies Of A Creep
I knew this kid in 9th grade who seemed like a nice enough dude. Let's call him Frank. We became friends over our mutual love of video games, and he seemed to be a lot more invested in the friendship at first. Then, one day, I invited him over to my house to play video games. We had a good enough time, but then I got to school the next day, my friends told me that Frank bragged to everyone that we got intimate.
Being an angry and petty teenager, I walked up to him during lunch period, in front of a bunch of guys, and called him out for what he said. He began stuttering, but before he could finish, I told him he was a creep and to never talk to me again. Cut to a few months later, when I was called into the vice principal's office. I got there, and she asked me if I was still friends with Frank.
I responded that we used to be. She asked what ended our friendship, and I explained the situation to her. She looked at me and said, "That's not what he told us, but I think I know who's telling the truth." It turned out that after I ended our friendship, Frank became fixated on another girl, only to discover she had a boyfriend. Frank decided the best course of action to get rid of the boyfriend.
Security, of course, got to him before he could do anything. He got suspended, but since it was close to the end of the school year, he just never came back and transferred schools the following school year. Now that I think about it, Frank never did have any real friends. He had no sibling either, so I guess he was always just lonely. Still, he was a huge creep. Good riddance.
#51 Why Can't I Get Just One Kiss?
I considered him a friend. I stayed in his apartment whenever I'd visit his town. He would sleep in the living room, while I would sleep in his bedroom. When it got late, he started making "jokes" about how he had hidden the bedroom key and that I should get "ready" for him. I spent the night half-awake and fully dressed out of sheer fear.
In the morning, I packed my bags and got ready to leave, but he wouldn't let me go without making me give him a "goodbye kiss." He physically blocked the door so I couldn't get out. I tried to play it off and somehow managed to squeeze by him without getting kissed, but it was a terrifying experience. And that was the end of our friendship.
#52 This Is A Real Case Of Macho Syndrome
A nice guy from college kept trying to talk to me even though I was clearly trying to do my homework. Now, I was okay with multitasking—I could do homework while listening and responding to him, but he wouldn't have it. He wanted my full, undivided attention. "Hey, Tuna, you know what? I REALLY hate it when women ignore me." I was dumbfounded but also really offended, so I shot back that I WAS listening to him, even if I wasn't looking at him. "No, but when I'm talking to someone, I want them to LOOK at me." A friend overheard this and went off on him faster than I did. He left me alone after that.
#53 He Wouldn't Take No For An Answer
A coworker gave me a ride to the train station because I had missed my bus. It was a 15-minute ride and I thought it was nice of him to offer. I did not think much of it; I really thought he was just trying to help out. When we were still in the car, he mentioned wanting to invite me for a drink one day and also offered me to drive me all the way back home after the "date" (he lived near the train station we were heading to, which was a 45-minute drive away from my place).
I declined because I felt uncomfortable and because, without traffic, the train was actually more convenient for me. He mistook my refusal for politeness, saying that it would not bother him to drive all the way there (at that point I did not care about him, I was just starting to get scared). He kept insisting and I had to practically beg him to just drop me at the train station. He eventually let me go, but that whole experience made me feel really uncomfortable.
#54 Friends Don't Steal From Each Other
#55 She's Better Off Keeping The Boyfriend She Has
He wouldn't leave me alone while I was working. He kept saying it was a "shame I had a boyfriend" because I was "so pretty" and he'd treat me right. He overtipped (like, WAY too much) because I was apparently too beautiful for him not to. I work at a busy music venue, so he basically had to yell all of this at me while I was helping a hundred other customers.
I eventually had to tell him to buzz off, which just meant he stared at me all night from the crowd, waving at me. After the lights went up, he came over to continue bothering me, so I gave him some horrible excuse and booked it. Why come to a show if you're just going to creep on someone WHILE SHE'S WORKING?
#56 Whatever Happened To Taking It Slow?
#57 His Mom Was As Clueless As Him
I had a close female friend years ago who was super friendly and outgoing. We easily became friends because we had a lot in common but I never liked her in that way. However, her outgoing and friendly personality would often attract the "nice guys." She was telling me about this one guy who she was sort of friends with. He had offered to take her shopping one day when she said she needed new shoes.
Being polite and friendly, she went with him but then he insisted on paying for her shoes which were $200 because he was a "nice guy." Then, he asked if it was okay for them to drop by his house on their way to her house. When they got there, his mother apparently made a big deal about my friend and left the two of them alone in the house assuming they were boyfriend and girlfriend. During this time, the guy was grinning sheepishly and taking in all the praise. She had to set him straight after that.
#58 Full Of Himself
I went on a date with a guy to a local park. I was taking my dog for a walk and checking out some cool scenery. He was over 45 minutes late, and when we got there, he spent the entire hour-long loop talking about Westworld. I don't watch it. He claimed to have watched each episode multiple times while taking detailed notes the whole time.
That was fine, but I told him I didn't watch it and had nothing at all to add to the one-sided conversation. When we got back to the cars, I was like, "Thanks, but I gotta go, I'm meeting up with a friend for a concert tonight." That prompted an hour-long one-sided conversation about Phish shows and how he and his mom traveled across the country following Phish.
Three different 10-minute long Phish videos were also played. Look, I love jam bands as much as anyone, but in my head, I was just like please LET ME GO HOME. When I finally left, I spent the next few days moving into my new apartment. He knew I was going to be super busy, but he still sent me a nasty two-page text about how I didn't have to lead him on and that he deserved a text after our date. Yay, nice guys.
#59 Keep The Roses
#60 Backpackers Only
I was 22 and working a night shift in a backpacker's hostel in Mexico. I'd lay down on a bench close to the door so I could snooze during the downtime. An older Mexican guy (in his late 40s, the same age as my dad), came to talk to me. I made it clear that I wasn't interested in chatting at 3 a.m. He started telling me about how he had divorced his wife, sold his house and had approximately $40,000 leftover.
He was going to give $10,000 to each of his three kids and keep $10,000 for himself, but if I moved to the north of Mexico with him, he said he'd give it all to me. I reminded him that I had a boyfriend and that I wasn't remotely interested in him or his money, but he somehow took that as a cue to try massaging my feet. I kicked him off me and told him I would call security if he didn't leave. The owner of the hostel kicked him out the next day because of his creepiness, thank God.
#61 A Little More Manipulative, A Little Less Nice
There was a "nice guy" in high school who had a crush on me. He was never shy about it, and from day one he made me feel really uncomfortable. He'd ask me out multiple times a day, always in front of my friends (who didn't help because they'd always egg me on to go out with him). I was the new kid in school and they'd all been friends with him since elementary school.
When I kept saying no, he assumed it was because I was seeing someone else, so he started telling people I was sleeping with random guys in school (I wasn't, I had no interest in dating any of the boys I went to high school with). Any time I tried to tell him to stop doing that, he would say he was just joking and that I needed to lighten up.
It all came to a head at the homecoming dance my junior year. He was a senior, so it was his last homecoming. Apparently, the day before homecoming, he told one of my friends that he'd asked me to the dance and I said yes. He had not asked me, and I never had any intention of going to the dance in the first place.
He kept going on to my friend about how special he wanted it to be and how he spent all his money on tickets, gas, new shoes, and a corsage. My friend was so excited for him that she went over to his house the day of homecoming and helped him get everything ready. She also told all our friends what was going on, so EVERYONE was under the impression I was going to the dance with him.
He told everyone that I was going to get dropped off by my parents, so he and all my friends waited outside for me. They waited for three hours. Apparently, any time my friends told him I wasn't coming, he'd tear up and say, "Just five more minutes." So, of course, I showed up to school on Monday and everyone was FURIOUS at me.
None of my friends wanted to talk to me. I sat alone at lunch for three days completely confused about what was going on. So I went up to the guy when he was alone, asked what on earth he'd done, and he just started laughing hysterically and said, "If you agree to go out with me, I'll tell everyone it was just a misunderstanding." I never talked to the guy again. He permanently damaged my friendships with several people, so why would I want to be friends with him?
#62 If Only He Had Listened
#63 Harassment In The Workplace Does Not Fly
Some utter creep at work posing as a "nice guy" once asked me to join him and three other employees for drinks at a restaurant up the street from my house. I liked the other three people who were attending, so I met them all and had dinner there before heading home. This guy left immediately as soon as I did just so that he could tell everyone at work that he'd followed me home and we slept together.
I had just started dating a huge crush of mine who also worked there (we were dating incognito because he was hourly and I was a director, and that kind of interaction was frowned upon). I wasn't about to let some horrible rumor started by this jerk ruin a good thing, so I went straight to HR and reported him for harassment. He was gone by the next day.
#64 Time To Break Up
I wore a V-neck T-shirt. It wasn't that deep that it showed cleavage... It was a cotton athletic tee with a college logo on it that just happened to have a V-shaped neck. My ex-boyfriend (who was very religious) told me it was rude of me to tempt him. He kept making comments and passive-aggressively shaming me for the rest of the night. I had just come home from the gym and was wearing sweatpants over jogging shorts.
#65 Accidentally Texting The Wrong Person Works Out In The End, Sometimes
#66 The Entitlement Of Some Guys Is Unreal
#67 You Don't Need A Ring To Be Engaged
#68 Doesn't He Realize How That Is The Opposite Of Nice?
I once was out with friends and I got pretty tipsy. One dude stayed with me, offering to take care of me while my other friends left because they all knew him. Turned out, he only offered to stay with me because he had ulterior motives for that night. Thankfully, one of my friends called me to ask if I was doing okay and she called me an Uber. I got out of there real fast.
#69 What A Drama King
I was 19-years-old and working the third shift at a gas station, casually sweeping the floor. The door opened and I made eye contact with some guy. I couldn't figure out what was going on in the guy's head, but it was like he thought he was in some kind of slo-mo movie situation. He "staggered" back, widening his eyes and staring at me.
I felt like I was reading a scene from Twilight in my head. I went behind the checkout counter and he grabbed his soda or whatever. He kept looking at me in shock and shaking his head like he was trying to psych himself up for something (ladies, you know that feeling—when you know someone wants to catch your attention and talk to you but you're trying to keep it casual).
This went on for like, 20 minutes and I couldn't accomplish anything because I was waiting for the guy to check out. Anyway, he walked up to the checkout super dramatically, I checked him out, and he stared at me the whole time. Finally, he sighed, saying, "I never expected to see such a beautiful woman at a gas station. This is fate, you shouldn't be working here, I just can't help myself, I have to ask you to go out with me."
I said, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." He seriously looked enraged. He clenched his fists and gave me this overly dramatic scary look, grabbed his stuff, and stormed out the door. He moved his car so the bright headlights were facing the front of the store and sat there until the next customer came, probably an hour later. Honestly, I wasn't too scared, it was just like, really? I just wanted to finish my list of duties at this ugly gas station and move on my life.
#70 If Only More Guys Learned Their Lesson Like This
I was the “nice guy” in this situation. Back when I was in high school, I really liked this girl and thought for whatever reason I had a chance. She was on the verge of graduating, and I was young and stupid. I bought this girl a promise ring with a diamond. I gave her the ring with a note while she was at work, only to end up in the counselor's office the next day and getting the ring back.
I was told that it was a nice gesture, but a bit weird. At the time, it seemed like a completely normal and nice thing to do. In my head, I misread so many things, and I had that young romantic feeling in my head. As an adult, I find it completely creepy that I even did it. It still kind of bothers me to this day. Sometimes, being too forward can be creepy.
#71 It's Creepy Nonetheless
My now-husband was in the cab with me on our way home from our second or third date. He lived two blocks over, so we shared a cab. “I’m going to marry you one day," he said to me. Umm... I nervously laughed and couldn’t get out of there fast enough. I was so uncomfortable. Well, you see who got the last laugh there.
#72 Straight-Up Mean
#73 That's Not How You Film An Event
#74 Good Call On Her Part
I was on a second date that I thought was going well, but I hadn't realized that he had been there already for a while and was pounding down the drinks before I even sat down. After what I thought was our second drink, he started talking about how much he loved me and how he hoped I loved him back. I said, "Okay, but how would you feel if I didn't love you?" He suddenly burst into tears, saying that he was a "nice guy" and if I didn't love him, then he didn't know how to live. That really annoyed me, so I got up, wished him luck and told him that he should see a therapist.
#75 There Are Some Actual Nice Guys Left Out There
I was hanging out with a buddy at a local bar in college. Two cute girls came over and immediately said, "Can you help us out? That creeper over there won't leave us alone and we used you guys as our excuse by saying, 'Those guys are our boyfriends.'" Without skipping a beat, we both gave the creeper the 'boyfriend look'. We got a "happy to see you hug" and a chance to chat with some great girls.
I knew the creep from high school and he was the classic "Mr. Nice Guy". I was flattered to be asked to help them out, but it makes me sad and angry that finding their "boyfriends" was the only way out for them. As I watch my kids grow up, I think of those two girls often. I hope my daughter never has to find a "boyfriend" and if she does, I hope he's a standup guy. I'm also doing my best to ensure my son is never the "nice guy" and that he is a genuinely nice guy.
#76 Girls Don't Owe Guys Anything For Drinks They Offer To Buy
#77 Was Jumping Out Of The Bushes Really Necessary?
#78 The Dog Deserved Better
I work with animals. I had a guy come in that I'd met under professional circumstances several times as his pug was very ill. This particular time, his pug had passed away at home the night before and he was bringing it in for cremation. I did the usual condolences and he was crying a little. In the middle of discussing the care of the remains, he stopped and said, "I really love your scrub top!"
I was wearing my Star Wars scrub top. It was weird, but I said thanks. I met him at the back door to get the remains from him. He handed me the remains and sort of shifted his body into mine. In the process of putting the body in my arms, he full-on open-handedly groped my breast. Like, I could feel the whole breast shift up and when he let go I could feel it "plop" back down. It definitely wasn't an accident graze. At this point, he wasn't crying anymore. He kind of half smiled at me and just walked away.
#79 He's Just A Jealous Guy
During my freshman year of college, my guy friend and I got a little too tipsy and were (consensually) making out. A self-proclaimed "nice guy" found out and told an RA that my guy friend had assaulted me. We both had to meet with the title nine coordinators, and I had to go to mandatory therapy sessions while my guy friend was told they were considering expelling him (even after I told the title nine directors and therapist that it was totally consensual many times). It all worked out in the end though— two years later, the "nice guy" dropped out, and my guy friend and I are dating.
#80 Seems More Like Purposeful Misinterpretation
#81 What An Inappropriate Comment
When I was in high school, I had a group of guy friends I used to hang out with to play video games after school. Everyone was really into Monster Hunter and I was the only one without a 3DS. One of the guys offered to sell me his 3DS for like, $100 if I bought Monster Hunter and play with them back at his place. I ended up doing it and when I got there, the place was an obvious neckbeard nest.
The place was really cramped so we had to sit really close to each other. I ended up sitting next to him and about halfway through a hunt, he said, "Has anyone ever told you, you have really a really nice body?" I just said awkwardly, "Oh, thanks," and left it at that. I didn't end up going back, but I got a 3DS out of the deal.
#82 From Nice Guy To Creep In One Second
He asked if he could have a lock of my hair.
#83 Not The Time For That
Being a close friend of mine, I confided in him when I experienced some heavy duty trauma. While I was blubbering to him, absolutely bereft and vulnerable, he told me he would never hurt me and asked me why I wouldn't go out with him. NOT THE TIME FOR THAT. Sometimes, moments like that make me think that guys and girls really can't be just friends.
#84 No Means No
I had just moved to a new city and I went on two dates with a “nice guy.” The first one was fine, so when he asked me to get ice cream the next night, I said yes. But then I met up with him and he immediately asked whose apartment I wanted to go to. I rebuffed this question more than once, and he wouldn’t keep his hands off of me all night.
I knew I needed to get away from him, but I did let him walk me home because he wouldn’t take no for an answer and I didn’t really know anyone to come to help me. When we got to my building, he grabbed my face and forcibly kissed me. Then he said, “You can invite me up if you want. I know you want to.” When I said no and walked inside, I looked back and he had held the door open to watch me leave his sight. I blocked his number and hope to never see him again.
#85 That Jealousy Trick Didn't Work
A "nice guy" asked me out in high school on the bus and I declined. He gave me the silent treatment after that. The next day, he appeared in my friend group with his arms encasing one of my friends who looked clearly uncomfortable. He told her he loved her and how great of a woman she was to be giving him a chance to treat her like a princess.
He looked at me while saying this. I talked to her after and apparently, he had asked her over and over to date him until she said yes. She was a very nice girl and I felt bad for her. I told her what happened and that seemed to give her the confidence to stop the dating after only a few hours. We never saw him much after that, thank goodness.
#86 Not First Date Behavior At All
#87 Professing Your Love Does Not Mean You Have Permission To Touch Her
#88 Being Nice Once Does Not Make Him Nice
#89 Doesn't Take Much For Some Guys To Turn Into Stalkers
I met a guy on a dating app a few months ago and was messaging him for a bit. I started to get some weird vibes, so I told him I wasn't interested and unmatched him. He found my Instagram (I have more than one account and he got them both) and he started messaging me there. He'd say that I was "a naughty little girl" who needed to be taught a lesson. I blocked him, made all my accounts private and changed usernames. I haven't heard from him since.
#90 How Incorrectly Full Of Himself