People Share The Things Their Partner Did That Were Once Cute But Now Infuriating
It takes a lot to make a relationship work, especially if that relationship is a marriage.
At the beginning of a relationship, everything is all sunshine and rainbows. It’s new, so it’s naturally romantic. But eventually, this honeymoon phase ends. The upside is that you grow closer, and if you do it right, your intimacy, trust, and mutual understanding deepens.
The downside is that you find all sorts of things about that other person that irritates the heck out of you. What was once something that you found quirky, cute, and charming about your significant other, you now just find flat-out annoying.
It’s okay — it happens. Just ask these couples who decided to share some stories about things their partners did that they used to find completely adorable. Now those same things absolutely infuriate them. See if you can relate!
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#35 Not-A-Very-Good Morning
His happiness in the mornings. He used to make me feel a bit more cheery as we both were up at dawn and he’d just be happy to start his day while I wasn’t too happy. I’m not a morning person, but I have rarely gotten to sleep in past 5 o’clock since I was 14, and now I, unfortunately, wake up at the time even when I don’t have to. Now instead of making me more cheery in the mornings, I just feel irritated, which is completely dumb, because he’s just being his normal happy self, but dude, quit being so pleasant so early in the morning, it’s pissing me off. It also pisses off our toddlers who hate mornings just as bad and want him to stop singing to them while they eat their breakfast. But when that happens I feel better because if I’ve gotta listen to him be happy, so do you!
#34 Inadequate At Interacting
My husband hates social interaction (even relaying information to and from friends sometimes) and will avoid it at all costs. At first, it was cute. He would beg me to make the calls to order food or find out information. Now I find it very inconvenient, especially when I’m not in the mood to talk to people either.
Honey, if you are reading this, I love you very much. What do you want for dinner?
#33 Stop With The Sarcasm
It would be nice to bring up a topic and not get a zinger in response. “What do you want from the grocery store?” “Five pounds of filet mignon, some motor oil, and, oh, a million dollars.” No, duckface, its 100 degrees out and the kids need food. I’d much rather sit next to you on the couch. WHAT DO YOU WANT?
#32 Miss Marathon Motor Mouth
She talks c o n s t a n t l y. I’m a guy who can appreciate a good silence, but she hates it. She has to fill every silence by talking or humming or singing or playing music or putting on a TV show. Most of the time she isn’t talking to me, really. Example: as I type this, she is playing Fallout and just kinda narrating her experience. It’s still pretty cute and charming at times, but when we first started dating I found it far more adorable.
This issue is that since she’s constantly making noises with her mouth, I have grown accustomed to just tuning her out or doing other stuff or leaving the room mid-sentence because, once again, she USUALLY ISN’T REALLY TALKING TO ME. Unfortunately, sometimes she IS talking to me and then I look like the jerk for not listening. But I think if I listened in-depth to every tiny thing that came out of her mouth to verify she was or was not speaking to me I would lose my mind.
#31 A Little Too Lenient And Laid Back
My husband’s laid-back attitude. I truly appreciate that he doesn’t stress about much. He definitely adds balance to my procrastination.
At times though I wish he was more timely. We’re going on a road trip? Maybe we should book a hotel in advance, not 20 minutes before getting there.
We moved across the country and I set up the Relocube, pick up, and drop off. I asked him to research potential apartments. The week we were to have our Relocube delivered we still didn’t have an apartment or even one in mind. Our Relocube was set to be delivered on Saturday, and we signed our lease on Friday.
I’ve learned to take the lead on planning, but it would be a nice “break” for me mentally if I didn’t also have to do it.
#30 Who’s Laughing Now?
My husband always tries to make me laugh. I honestly hope he never stops trying, but there are times when it’s like “Really? You’re trying to make me laugh NOW?”
#29 Frustrated At Forgetfulness
His forgetfulness used to be cute and fun. Waking up to fresh gallons of milk sitting on the counter for hours is annoying now.
#28 More Like Mr. Sometimes-Wrong
Dating: Wow, he knows a lot! I love that he always seems to have the answer. We won’t have many problems to worry about when we combine our knowledge!
Now: Babe, it won’t kill you to be wrong. Not everything has to be an argument just because your answer has been challenged!
#27 Queen Of The Unwelcomed Opera
Her having to sing everything like it’s a perfected choral piece.
#26 A Hairy Situation
Her hair. She has such long, beautiful hair, but it gets everywhere. Drains. Sinks. Carpets. I’ve had to sit and cut hairs out of the vacuum so it would work again because it had tied up the rolly bit. Not to mention I’ve had her hair on me and all through my clothing.
#25 Undivided And Unreciprocated Attention
In the beginning, he used to really need me and he always required a LOT of attention.
I loved it, at first.
I loved to feel needed and I 100% absolutely loved to lavish him with my adoring attention endlessly…
I was absolutely devoted.
Fast forward 15 years…
I feel used up and taken for granted.
He has never reciprocated. Our relationship has always been strongly one way.
His behavior was exactly what I wanted and needed at one point.
Now it’s just something that upsets me. A lot.
#24 Get On With It
He can not tell a story. Rambling, unnecessary details, and the listener is three steps ahead the entire time, just waiting for it to slowly unspool.
#22 Butter Fingers Breaking Things
Clumsily break things accidentally. It’d be a teaspoon one day or a shoelace the next. Little insignificant, “how-on-earth-did-you-manage-to-break-that?” type of things. Started out quite cute and amusing. Now it’s a case of “Babe, that’s like the fourth vacuum cleaner this year, and it’s a Dyson.”
#21 Out With The Old, In With Your SO
Not married, but engaged and have been together for almost five years now. Everyone likes her. She’s a very likable person, but my friends and family like her more than me. Just gets to me sometimes when she tells me something about a friend or family member that I should have heard from them.
Just to be clear, I don’t mind it. I like it because she makes socializing easier for me. That way I can sit back, relax, and just listen and enjoy the company. The side effects, as mentioned above, can be annoying, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
#20 Mr. Handy Versus Mrs. Helpless
First off, still very happily married and in love! However, there is one thing that does cause a ruckus every now and again. When we were dating and living together, we would do DIY stuff around the house. I know a little past the basics because my dad made sure to teach me things and of course there is always YouTube, so I’m not helpless by any stretch. In fact, I owned several of my own power tools before we got together.
When doing one of these projects, he often wouldn’t let me do much. Back then I thought, “What a gentleman, doesn’t want me to get dirty,” or whatever. Nowadays I’ll be watching him do something and know a better way of doing said task, and it’s like he doesn’t believe me. So he’ll try 18 other ways before landing on the way I suggested and it working out just dandy. It’s pretty frustrating. I can do more than hold something while you work!
It’s not a deal breaker, but sometimes I let him know just how stupid he was acting, and how much time it wasted by not just trying my way first. Even if my suggestion doesn’t work, what did you lose?
#19 Bye, Bye With Baby Talk
Talk in a baby voice. It was cute at the beginning, but when you’re asking me if you can have my last beer in the fridge in a tiny baby voice, no, now I need it.
#18 Slow Eater Stretching Dinner Time
Takes forever to eat a meal. It was very well-suited to long dates, romantic dinners, those intense getting-to-know-you conversations at the beginning. Fifteen years later and I just want to have a meal where I’m not done before he’s barely taken a bite!
His whole family is like this and I simply don’t understand. It’s food, you put it on a plate and you eat it and go on with life! Not for them. Mealtimes often stretch on for hours, occasionally into the next bloody meal if it’s a family event. I just don’t get it.
#17 Stuck At A Fork In The Road
Her indecisiveness. It was adorable to see her struggle when we were dating, but now I’m just trying to figure out what to make for dinner.
#16 Married To Mr. Sandman
Falls asleep INSTANTLY.
He works long hours (Japanese. In Japan) and is always tired, which I get. But he falls asleep literally while eating or in the middle of a sentence.
Was really cute. And I still can’t actually be mad at him because I know it’s because he’s working so hard. But when we only get late evenings to talk over a quick dinner and I’m constantly having to wake him up every five minutes, it gets less and less cute.
#15 Dating The Devil(‘s Advocate)
Plays the devil’s advocate.
When we first started dating it was fun and challenging to debate the points. Now it’s tiring and just “can we agree GENOCIDE IS BAD?! There is no ‘middle ground’ option!”
“Well if I can play devil’s advocate…”
“I will cut you, dear. So help me god, I will cut you.”
We still have plenty of intellectual debates. We don’t staunchly agree on everything and we’re able to open each other’s minds. But playing devil’s advocate got old quick.
Devil’s advocates can definitely help see a different perspective in the world. But I don’t need that on EVERY point. Especially if it’s a personal problem and I’m just trying to rant.
#14 A Bit Too Bossy
Her bossiness. She came from a really hard upbringing and I was floored by how she was taking charge and refusing to fall into the same trap as her family.
Actually, I still am floored. Even when I’m annoyed at being bossed around I’m proud. From trailer park to prosecutor. She’s amazing.
#13 Slow Down With The Spontaneity
It used to be really fun and sexy, but now it’s like living with a real-life Homer Simpson/Phil Dunphy hybrid.
No joke, I am just waiting for the day he comes home with a bag of “magic beans.”
I think my favorite example is on our first date, we got caught in a rainstorm. I was wet to the bone and wearing a skirt, so he offered me his pants.
#12 Jealousy That Isn’t Justified
His jealousy was a little cute at first because it was very mild and appeared harmless. I figured he would learn over time that he could trust me completely and it would lessen or go away. It took a completely opposite turn and he became violently jealous of every man who so much as looked in my direction. We are now divorced.
#11 From Organized To O.C.D.
His tidiness. I never met a guy who was so organized and capable in the household (fixes everything, has a wide range of nicely organized tools, knows how to use a washing machine, to sew buttons…).
Now we live together and I realized it’s more of a minor OCD behavior since he is not cleaning let’s say “efficiently.” It’s more that he uses this exercise to relieve stress. He comes home and the first thing he does is clean and put away stuff, and most important: vacuum. No matter how hard I cleaned before him.
So I just leave little breadcrumbs here and there, some clothes on the sofa, some mail, …
#10 The Boundary Is The Bathroom
Constantly watching me in the bathroom. It was fun at first, we always make/made jokes. But now there are times I just want to be left alone.
I would like to be left alone in the bathroom, but it’s not life or death and it’s not a deal breaker. I love him. And even with this annoyance, I would still be with him. Yes, he knows it annoys me, I probably tell him at least once a month, give him a glare, yell at him to go away. Yes, he knows this is being talked about on Reddit, we laughed about it this morning as he made the same immature whining jokes. That’s who he is, that’s who we are, and even with this annoyance, I wouldn’t trade him for anything. I think I’m a lucky gal if that is the only thing he does that annoys me. I’m sure there are things I do that annoys him too. No one’s perfect.
I would like a lock that can’t be picked though. If anyone has any good suggestions on good indoor locks that are unpickable I’d be really grateful.
#9 Competitiveness Isn’t Cute
Whether we play video games, board games, Skee Ball, or whatever, he’s playing to WIN. At first I was glad that he’d never let me win. He saw me as a peer, not as a little woman he had to go easy on.
But he’s WAY better than me at video games. When we play, it’s pretty much a guarantee that I will lose. Mario Kart? I will unleash blue shells, lightning bolts, red shells, and whatever else I can throw at him, and he will still win. Fighting games? I don’t stand a chance, ever.
Every once in a while, I take him out to a place with Skee Ball so I can win for once. And we are evenly matched at board games, so that’s nice.
(Also, it took me hours to think of this comment. He’s a keeper)
#8 Frustrated With Mr. Fix It
Always trying to fix everything.
When we got together 10 years ago, I found it endearing. My hero wants to save me and fix all my problems. I was 18 when we met, and a mess, so in a lot of ways I did need some saving.
But now I’m a functioning adult nearing 30. I just want someone to vent to most of the time. I don’t need to hear about how I should handle issues at work, etc. Just hear me out give me a good “wow babe, that sucks,” split a bottle of wine and watch some Netflix with me. Not everything needs to be fixed.
#7 Passin’ On The Gas
Divorced for some years now, but…
My ex-wife used to have no qualms about farting loudly whenever, wherever. No medical condition or anything and she’d even giggle afterward. In our early twenties this was cute and edgy. When we hit our late twenties it was annoying and immature.
She did it during the eulogy of my dad’s best friend who was like a second father to me, and then got mad at me for being upset about her being disrespectful. Every time I wonder if I made the right decision to leave her I remember that ridiculous degree of self-centered immaturity.
#6 Can’t Even Pretend To Be Happy
His complete inability to be a fake person and his anti-social behavior. At first, I found it so authentic and refreshing. Now if he doesn’t want to do something, I can’t get him to do it. Case: Got invited to a wedding where I didn’t know many people, I felt uncomfortable going alone, so I made him come with me. He sat there with the grumpiest face ever all night. Completely ruined what could have been a fun evening meeting new people. He is unable to fake being nice and have a good time, even for someone he loves the most.
So now I have a social life and he just doesn’t care to have one. I feel like I miss out on half a life because he doesn’t give a crap about anyone but me.
#5 Take-Out Every Night
She can’t cook. At first it was like, “well, I keep feeding her so she can’t leave,” to, “well, she always finds good deals on food and I can cook weird crap,” to, “grief, woman, I’ve tried to teach you, you can only do roasts and desserts! YOU SET EGGS ON FIRE! YOU’LL STARVE IF I LEAVE YOU!”
#4 Give Me My Space
His constant need for touching when we’re going to bed. It was cute and fun at first, now I’m like “okay buddy, I would like to sleep without your leg on top of my stomach.”
#3 The Stair Master Spouse
She’ll have me bring in the heavy things (usually the heavier groceries) from the car. Which is fine and probably not unique to just our relationship. But now we have a house in the mountains that sits atop a number of stairs, in altitude. I call her every day to let her know I’m on my way home from work. Yet she’ll wait until I get all the way inside to ask me to get whatever it is she left in her car.
So that’s back down and then back up the stairs when she could’ve asked me to pick it up on my way in. Especially irritating in the winter.
#2 Life Of The Party
Going out drinking. When we were dating, we used to go out with friends, have drinks, happy hour after work every Friday, have super fun times together, but after we had our child, I realized he really is just a straight up alcoholic. Like for real could not function without alcohol and he was so selfish. My child and I were at the bottom of his priority list to alcohol and the bar. He is now a year sober, but the first 4.5 years from the time I found out I was pregnant were awful, stressful, and lonely. I hold so much resentment against him for those years. I would be fine if we weren’t together anymore. I try to let go of the past and only focus on the future. It’s a totally different atmosphere once sobriety entered the house. I now firmly believe in living with someone for a couple of years before you have children and/or get married. I will be sure to tell all my children this!
#1 Insanely Insecure
Her being insecure.
At first, it was cool being loved so much like that but now it’s super annoying.
We get invited to parties and she doesn’t want to go because X will be there and she doesn’t like her cause she thinks X has a crush on me. Always questioning who I get a text from, thinking I’m cheating on her…