Divorced Men And Women Share The Final Straw That Ended Their Marriage
You’re finally celebrating being part of a married couple, and you couldn’t be happier. Spending time with your spouse is something that you cherish at every moment. For some people, however, this feeling turns into sorrow. Over time, those individuals will want out of their once happy relationship. The divorce rate in the United States has been at its highest over the years. Nearly 50% of couples wind up in divorce. Many of these relationships end for various reasons, including money or simply falling out of love. While marriage counseling is available, it’s sometimes not enough to fix certain relationships. Add children in this equation, and things can be a bit more heartbreaking.
Here, we speak to several people about what made them finally give up. Some reasons are pretty obvious, and some seem a tad bit surprising. Whatever the reason, the outcome remains the same: they thankfully managed to leave a horrid situation.
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#35 Lock And Key
We had made plans to go to the movies for Valentine’s Day. He flaked on me and I went to the movie alone (Definitely, Maybe). The movie was about a divorcing father and how he met the mother of his daughter… I realized that I would be okay telling that sort of story to my kids, rather than trying to explain why Mommy was so unhappy all the time. He had already pretty much moved in with “a friend” (read into this exactly as much as you should—he was sleeping with her—and raising her son as his own) so there wasn’t much to do, but change the locks and file the paperwork. So I did, and now I am much happier and have zero regrets about leaving him.
#34 Tats On My Arm
I bought my husband a tattoo for his birthday. He got ‘father’ tattooed down one arm and family down the other. Then I found out he was secretly seeing the tattoo artist. His excuse was she listened to him. Yeah, CAUSE I PAID HER TOO. Sorry I didn’t have time to listen while raising our three young children.
#33 A Critical Transition
Waited until we were married with two kids to come out as a transwoman and polyamorous and needed to explore that. I support and respect her being who she needs to be, but I’m not homosexual. We had way more problems than that, but that was the final straw, I suppose. We’re on good terms, amicable divorce. I have the kids and she lives in another state to pursue her transition.
#32 For The Horde
He quit his job when I was five months pregnant. I continued to work at the family bar until I gave birth. He didn’t return to work. I went back to the bar two months after I gave birth. I had to find a babysitter for when I went to work. One time, I left the baby with him and when I got home he didn’t feed or change the baby so I always had to make sure someone was there to take care of my kid. My husband stopped showering and would play World of Warcraft all day and night. I told him it was either get his act together and go see a doctor or I was leaving. He told me there was nothing wrong with him and he was entitled to do as he pleased since we lived with his parents (had to move in with them when he quit his job). So I left.
#31 Gimme Something To Break
#30 Feeling Very Lucky
Her Google search history. Googling “What to do if he doesn’t call you back after having hooking up with you” the day after supposedly going out with her friends for a girls night out.
#29 Treat Her Mother Right
He called my Mom a terrible, derogatory word. That was the last straw. Call me anything you want but don’t cuss my elderly mother who lived with us. She was afraid of him so I…we…left.
#28 Bills, Bills, Bills
When I got pulled over by an undercover cop. Turns out she had stolen a credit card from someone in my family and used $1,200 to pay her part of the bills for like two months. I knew nothing of it and the investigator was trying to make me part of the things. No way. I’d be homeless before I stole anything to pay my bills.
#27 Keep Your Distance
We were going through a rough patch and when I tried to talk to her about what was going on and the total lack of intimacy or affection in our marriage and she said I’m sick of talking about this, I just don’t feel the same way about you anymore, the thought of you touching me makes my skin crawl, you had to expect this would happen one day but it’s not a big deal. She even said that if we were never intimate again in our life, she’d be perfectly okay with that, so this is our life now and you just have to get used to it. And no, I don’t want to try and rekindle things, I don’t want to go out on “date nights”, I won’t come to marriage counseling, and if you ever raise this subject again I’m going to walk out.
Maybe I should have stuck things out and kept trying to fix things, but she convinced me that things were just how she wanted them and nothing was going to change.
#26 Death In The Family
#25 Kiss The Bottle
For my mom, it was his drinking. It would get so bad that he’d still be at the bar when she’d ask him to come home (she worked the midnight shift at the time), and he’d come home in a sloppy rage where she’d fear for my safety. Finally, she told him he had a week to pack up and move out. He moved out on their anniversary five years ago and they’re good friends now, celebrated their 20th-anniversary last year.
#24 Lack Of Support
When he effectively threw me out of the house. In hindsight, it should have been when he was more worried about hanging out with his friend who was staying with us than comforting me when my grandfather died and then used work as an excuse to not attend the funeral with me.
#23 God Bless The U.S.A.
The absolute final straw was when he went to America (from England) for a week. I cared for our one-year-old son alone. He brought me back a huge multicolored velvet top hat. Yeah… it wasn’t the money, it was the sheer lack of thought that had gone into it. I knew we were done. I’ve never regretted it.
#22 Taking Baby Steps
#21 Full Of Sin
When she moved in with another man out of the blue. She also lied to everyone that I was horrible to her. That messed me up for years.
She wasn’t right for me. She always tried to shove Christianity down my throat as well. Which in hindsight seems kind of funny.
Thankfully, I have moved on and learned to trust again with my current girlfriend who is loyal and not just accepting but participating in my experimentation of religions. Some days I’m actually happy I went through all that. If not for that, I don’t think I would be the person I am today. Sure I’m pretty jaded but I can at least say I am genuinely happy.
#20 Draining You Dry
The day I saw my all of my financial assets (TSP + IRA + Savings/Checkings) go from a healthy six-figure number to $300 in my checking account.
She was overseas and apparently having extramarital affairs. We were doing therapy to work through it (or so I thought) and I thought things were on the way to get better.
I went online to pay my monthly credit card balance off and saw only $300 in my checkings account. I don’t even remember when I have ever seen an account balance that low.
Went to court over it all, did the divorce thing and the court awarded me the vast majority of the funds back.
She filed for bankruptcy and got the debt reduced to a fraction of that even though she is probably now making more than I am. The system works.
#19 What’s In Your Wallet?
On the night after we got home from the police station where my family and I were told that my sister had been in a car accident, he ignored me the rest of the night, invited a friend over and talked to his friend about how much MY sister’s accident affected him. I never forgave him for that and we separated within a year.
#18 Holding It In
#17 Online Betrayal
So, I moved to another country for a man I thought was the love of my life (young and not-so-bright when it came to relationships). One night, after a year-and-a-half of marriage, he bought me roses for the first time and admitted that he had cheated multiple times by finding girls online. Before and during the marriage. And, to top it off, the only reason he told me is that he’d snooped through my stuff and realized how depressed I was. Basically when he said all this a switch inside me turned off and I left him.
#16 Be Connected. Be Discovered.
I was on a ship for a month and my wife was across the country for six weeks for work when a random girl messaged me on Facebook warning me that my wife was pregnant because of that girl’s boyfriend. The worst part is my wife wouldn’t grow up and admit it to me.
#15 A Survivor In More Ways Than One
I was 43 and diagnosed with very aggressive breast cancer. Good prognosis but will need mastectomy, 13 rounds of chemo and radiation. My husband had a very demanding job and we had four young children. My mom would fly out every round of chemo to take care of me and help run the family. Just after my sixth chemo, my mom passes away suddenly from undiagnosed heart problems. Ten days after my mom dies, my husband of 20 years comes home and confesses to an affair he had two years earlier. I’m sick, bald, in the middle of chemo, boobless and just lost my mom. He chooses that moment to tell me he cheated on me. I became severely depressed. He got tired of my depression so he divorced me. That was eight years ago. I am now healthy, own my own home and very fortunate to not be in that awful marriage anymore. My kids are doing great also. I still miss Mom, but I thankfully inherited her strong will and perseverance.
#14 It’s Your Duty
Strangely, it was his jury duty questionnaire. It asked his next of kin and he listed his mother. And it asked if any of your family members had been a victim of a violent crime and he answered no. I was and it was serious enough that the guy got the death penalty, so I reminded him of that. Basically, I realized all of our issues were because he didn’t consider me a family member. I just didn’t see any reason to keep trying after that.
#13 Studying More Than Math
#12 Removing The Virus
#11 Sweet Child ‘O Mine
#10 Gotta Catch ‘Em All
I think Pokemon Go was the final straw. We weren’t married but together for eight years with a kid. He had trouble keeping a job and hadn’t had a full time job in nine months. He worked part-time and lost his job and had some made-up story. I think he was showing up late and tired from staying up all night playing Pokemon Go downtown.
#9 Open And Shut Case
When one of my husband’s MANY girlfriends actually came up to me, apologized and said, “He told me that you knew about me and that you had an open marriage”. I was already planning on leaving him because of the infidelities. She just made me move all that much faster.
#8 Hospital Roll Call
Husband was out of town on a business trip. I had a surgery scheduled for the same time. Had the surgery and there were complications. It was supposed to be a day surgery and I should have been home that evening. Ended up in the ICU for two days and the hospital for four more. My friend called my now ex-husband and told him that I almost died and was in ICU and he needed to come home. His reply, ‘Well, she didn’t die so I’ll be home when my business trip is over.’ After he got home and I got home from the hospital, he was nice enough to leave the hotel invoice on our dresser. A room with two occupants.
#7 Cat’s In The Cradle
He tried to hurt my eight-month-old kitten by throwing it through a wall in our apartment. His reason: “The little thing wouldn’t stop meowing.” What an awful person.
#6 Just Got Wicked
When she refused to go back to marriage counseling because, “He makes me feel wicked because I won’t stop seeing [the other guy].”
There’s pretty much nothing left to say.
#5 You’re In Trouble
Convincing our children to drink their own urine.
He decided to practice urine therapy and I was disgusted and started to prepare for divorce. But, when he got the kids involved, I immediately knew it was over.
#4 Constant Disappearing Acts
For about three months, he would only be home for ten minutes after I got home from work. Just long enough to say hi to me and our infant son before taking off to party with friends until God knows when.
The final straw was when he thought it was acceptable to disappear for the entire weekend and get mad at me when I went looking for him. He had a seizure disorder and schizophrenia, so when he went missing in the past (happened multiple times) I had to go looking for him to ensure he was safe. Oh, but I shouldn’t worry?
#3 Enjoy The Show
Finding plane tickets and hotel reservations to go meet some dude she had been chatting with online.
Turns out the guy wasn’t the fishing-boat owning Alaskan adventurer he claimed. He turned out to be a part-time theater ticket-taker for a movie theater, living in his mom’s basement.
#2 No Dimes Available
When he told me that we were too young when we met (21) and that he never got to live a “bachelor lifestyle.” He wanted to take a break so that he could date around and get it out of his system then we would get back together. This happened about a month after we got married. Lived together nine years, married for six months. Marriage only lasted so long because he realized that he wasn’t attracting the dime pieces he thought he would and dragged his feet signing paperwork.
#1 Everything At Once
I decided to go to college and get my degree. He refused to get a job to help. Fine, but at least keep the house up.
Turns out I was expected to work eight hours, then go to school for eight more, then come home and cook, clean, do his laundry, and run him around town. I realized at that moment he didn’t really care about me the way a husband should.