People Share The Most Disgusting Thing A Family Member Has Done
In Harper Lee’s timeless novel To Kill A Mockingbird, Atticus Finch claims, “You can choose your friends, but you sho’ can’t choose your family, an’ they’re still kin to you no matter whether you acknowledge ’em or not, and it makes you look right silly when you don’t.” In theory, this famed quote makes total sense: humans are bound to their families in different ways than to our friends, and we tend to maintain a certain degree of loyalty toward our families even in times when we feel they’ve wronged us. Nonetheless, friends and family are equally as capable of destroying the lives of the people around them.
Whether Atticus believes it or not, sometimes there are members of our families we really wished we didn’t have to acknowledge as being blood-related, especially after they do something heinous to another family member. These folks took to Humaverse to explain some of the questionable (and in some cases, downright inexcusable) acts family members have committed toward their relatives.
#25. It’s Important To Invest In An Education
A family member requested to borrow $10,000 from my mother in order to attend school. He deceived her by saying that check or cash is the only payment method accepted. My mother, not knowing much about the situation at hand, writes it up for him thinking that it’s for college tuition.
Next thing you know, he bounces out of the city with my mother’s money and never contacted her ever again.
#24. All About The Benjamins
One of my uncles borrowed $20,000 from my other more successful Uncle to start a business and refuses to pay his more successful brother back because he’s “got so much money already”. The more successful uncle refuses to sue him because that’s not what family does, but they are no longer on speaking terms.
#23. When Adulting Turns To Adultery
One of my younger brothers is currently dating our oldest brother’s wife. They were having an affair in secret for three years before anyone figured it out.
#22. D.A.R.E. You To Turn The Phone On
My brother threatened to kick in my front door and kill me (6 months pregnant), my husband and 2-year-old son. He had stolen the phone I had purchased for my dad and I turned it off. He wanted me to turn it back on.
Meth is bad, kids.
#21. Forget Me… Not
#20. The Personal Hygiene Business Is Booming
I had a cousin who was addicted to substances and his parents were always doing stuff to bail him out and keep him from being homeless. One time they put down a deposit and paid rent for a furnished apartment for him. He ended up selling the furniture for money.
Another time they rented a mobile home for him and couldn’t figure out why the water bill was so high. Turns out he was charging his homeless friends $1 to take a bath/shower and that was going on pretty much around the clock.
#19. Have You Met My Dear Friend Karma?
My cousin tried to really hurt me when I was 6. He loosened the bolts in my coffee table, told me to lay under it, and hit it so it fell on me. It killed the nerves in my two front teeth and had to get them pulled out. But now my cousin is fat, can’t walk, and has to wear diapers while spiraling into depression, so it all turned out well in the end.
#18. What’s For Dinner?
My sisters used to pretend to put me in the oven. Apparently (I was only about 3 at the time, I don’t remember) they put me in a wok and seasoned me.
#17. “But We Were Just Playing A Game!”
A cousin of mine put a weapon to my throat when I was about 8 to scare the life out of me. It worked. Almost literally.
#16. An Untruth That Goes Six Feet Deep
#15. I Now Pronounce You… Gross
My grandfather married his stepdaughter.
#13. Couch Potato World Record Holder
My grandmother said she needed a place to stay one night due to issues with her housemate. She slept on the couch… for the next ten years. Made no effort to get her own place despite having a very good retirement income and still working part-time as a nurse. Loved to hit the casino though.
12.) Blood Is Thicker Than Legal Wills
#11. Welcome To The Family
During my father-in-law’s unexpected sickness and death, my brother-in-law got greedy. While my wife was staying with my father in law at the hospital my brother in law proceeded to loot my father in law of as many of his earthly possessions as he could load up, and took it all to his house; my wife has never been allowed to go through these personal possessions.
After moving my father in law to hospice, to cover his tracks my brother in law proceeded to tell the entire family that I had stolen large amounts of money from my father in law. There was no truth to this whatsoever in any shape, form, or fashion. And in fact, after my father in law’s death, my brother in law embezzled the estate funds $50k from the account— my wife ended up suing him and he had to return half. This act tore the family apart; all because of greed. It’s been 6 years and I think about it every day, still.
#10. Fighting A Different Kind of Battle
I was deployed twice overseas and each time I returned home not a single member of my family ever came to see me return. I was the only person returning with my group that had no one there to greet me. The entire four years I was stateside, not a single member of my family came to visit. One of my older brothers married a girl from Samoa and my parents flew there for their wedding, my other older brother is in the Army and my parents have traveled to attend all his major military events. I come from a very conservative Mormon/Catholic family in Wyoming and we have generations of veterans in our family. I was the only member in my family to obtain an Eagle Scout and graduate from college. I don’t know what I did to deserve this but I’ve finally made peace with myself after years of battling sadness mixed with anger. Now that I have my own son, I realize now that what I went through was a lesson to ensure my son will never experience what I had to go through.
#9. Dysfunctionality In The Courtroom
My sister talked my ex-husband into suing me for full custody at the exact moment I was unable to contest it properly because I had just suffered a huge loss in month nine of my pregnancy. She also foddered his case with lies to make me look like a terrible mother, while simultaneously patting me on the back and consoling me that he was a terrible man.
He didn’t win, but the case made things contentious for us for years and made it impossible to grieve with my now husband because I was in survival mode to make sure I didn’t lose my daughter.
#8. Underground Baby Brawling
My brother and I had younger sisters who were twins. One time we tied different colored bandanas around their respective waists (they were like 18 months at the time) and made them fight each other for our entertainment. They were vicious.
#7. Taxation is Theft… Literally
#6. Parental Control
My sister lied to a social worker to have us investigated for child abuse and neglect, leading to our foster child being removed from our home even though the claims were found to be false. She also spread the gossip that we were being investigated which hurt some friendships.
That foster child she got removed? Not only did she mess up that baby’s life she also destroyed my other kids because one day their sibling was home and the next gone with no warning. We had prepared them for foster kids leaving but this foster child was within weeks of being adopted by us.
To this day my sister maintains that she did the right thing because we “didn’t need more kids”.
#5. Forged, Forgotten
My family member got our early Alzheimer’s father to sign a loan putting the house up, then purposefully defaulted, resulting in mother to be evicted. Mother and father ended up in separate homes and died a year apart. Took all the insurance money and left the grave without a stone.
#4. Sharing Is Caring
I had a girl I thought I was in love with wrapped around my finger. The thing was, I had some family issues already and moved out of state. Next thing I know my dad is not only dating this girl, but I now have a baby sister that he was happy to put in her. I was 18, she was 21. My dad is currently 41. Good ole’ dad.
My uncle waited until his sister (my aunt) was dying of cancer to let her know about a property that was left to her in their parents’ will but one that he had been collecting money on for years. And he only did it because if she died without leaving it to someone legally, the property would go up for sale. He also escorted my old, feeble, and not-all-there mentally great grandma, whom he manipulated, to change the trust without anyone else’s knowledge.
#1. Cruel & Unusual
My dad pretended to have cancer when I was a child. To this day, I can’t understand the selfishness of it… I didn’t have a mother (she died when I was a baby), so I was facing being an orphan.
He tried to explain himself, he was dating a woman (who is now my step-mom) and was scared to lose her. He had a lump on the back of his neck and enjoyed the attention he got when we thought it might be serious. He faked it for just under a year.