People Share Why They No Longer Speak To Their Best Friend
Friendship is a beautiful thing. It’s wonderful to have someone you can tell all your secrets to; who you can call at any time for any reason.
However, certain things can cause a friendship to go sour. It’s sad to say goodbye to someone you are so close to, but some things just can’t be reconciled. Whether a best friend break-up happens because you grew apart, or someone committed something unforgivable, you just have to move on.
These internet users share their stories about losing a best friend. Some of them are heartbreaking, while others are so downright frustrating to hear about you might just pull your hair out.
#48 I Called Dibs…
My best friend knew just how big of a crush I had on this one guy in our class. We made a pact early on that we would never go after the same guy. We had a system where we would declare dibs on the guys we were each interested in. Throughout our entire friendship, that pact has remained in effect and she never once violated it.
But things were different with this guy. I could tell she liked him too, but I didn’t care because I called dibs on him first. One day when I was sick and didn’t attend school, she approached him. When I came back to school a few days later, they were already dating.
How dare she.
#47 Drifted Apart
My best friend and I had similar personalities. We were both pretty extroverted and outlandish, and that’s what made hanging out with each other fun. But we also clashed a lot, and whenever we did, both of us were too prideful to admit that we were wrong.
At some point, I matured enough to realize that I was the source of toxicity in many of our fights. I thought the responsible thing to do was remove myself from her life because I felt I was becoming a bad influence on her. After some time, we just drifted. It’s been five years since we last spoke and still going.
#46 Siblings Are Off Limits
My best friend and I made an agreement that we would never date each other’s siblings. A couple of years down the road, he started making advances at my sister. I gave him a warning, but he didn’t care.
Eventually, he chose her over me. It sucks because he comes over all the time and it’s so awkward since we’re no longer friends anymore.
#45 The Wife Doesn’t Want Single Guys Around
I did what I still think was the right thing and faded into the background silently. I wished him and his wife the best.
This guy was the truest brother anyone could ask for. He stood up for me when I was a scrawny kid and even though it’s been many years since I never forgot that.
I was even his best man at his wedding.
#44 The Ultimate Wedding Burn
#43 It’s Hard When Your Best Friend Is A Narcissist
For example, she texted me two weeks ago because asking to talk on the phone about my brother’s wedding. She used to be friends with him, and a lot of their mutual friends attended, though she wasn’t invited. I called her, and she just talked about herself for two hours before saying she had to go. She never once asked about the wedding during the conversation.
I’m working on cutting all contact again.
#42 Forgiveness Is Not An Option Here
#41 When You Marry Your Best Friend, Who Also Happens To Be A Cheater
#40 Not The Kind Of Friend You Keep
#39 This Was Just A Tragic Misunderstanding
#38 Him, Him, And More Him
#37 Some People Take Video Games Very Seriously
#36 When Kindness Is Considered A Favor, It’s Time To Go
The last straw was my wedding. Her traveling to my town for it was a “favor.” She showed up late, left the ceremony early, left the reception as soon as the food part was over, and then left town without telling me. she wanted back all lined up. That was it for me. I ghosted her, and that was the end.
#35 Who Is The True Bad Influence Here?
#34 Fathers of Best Friends Are Off Limits
My dad has had many affairs. My stepmother has broken up with him several times, but she always ends up forgiving him. My friend always told me growing up that she thought my dad was hot and would sleep with him if she could. I never thought it would happen. She is now married to a 70-year-old. We are 36. I guess she likes older men.
#33 A Crush On Straight Friends Spells Trouble
#32 An Old-Fashioned Husband Called It Quits On Their Friendship
#31 A Friendship Even Death Cannot Break
I really miss her.
#30 An Unsolved Mystery
Then at once, she stopped talking to me and shortly after blocked me on all social media. Nothing had happened. Now she can’t even look me in the eyes. I am unable to answer why.
#29 Ain’t Nobody Got Time For Selfish Friends
She got mad that I was diagnosed with depression and an anxiety disorder, but she was also one of the reasons why I developed an anxiety disorder in the first place.
#28 Big Mistakes Will Usually Cost You
#27 A Mooching Friend Won’t Be Around For Long
Along with this, she started mooching off of me. She’d invite me to dinner and then after ordering she’d say, “Oh, by the way, I don’t have any money, so you’re paying.” Or we’d meet out at a bar, and she’d tell me to give her money so she could buy a drink.
After years and years of this piling up, I just had it and cut ties.
I still miss how close we were, but it wasn’t a fair and equal friendship.
#26 A False Accusation Can Really Hurt
After sitting with her and holding her through the pain of her miscarriage, she called me on my 10th wedding anniversary and accused me of having feelings for her husband who I dated 17 years ago in high school for a hot second. She I still had a thing for him because I had hugged him at the hospital to console him. A year has passed since that moment, and I still feel broken and hurt.
#25 The Best Friend That Turned Into The Worst Nightmare
I finally moved out of our apartment. Her mental health had declined throughout six years.
It started randomly one day. She started having unprovoked outbursts. She would scream, break things, and just say insanely hurtful stuff. An hour or so would pass, and she would suddenly be a totally different person, forgetting everything that just happened.
It happened only twice the first year (police were called both times by the neighbors). Then, the episodes became more frequent and more violent.
I would try to help her through her episodes and console her afterward. We’d talk her through her feelings together and go through meditation techniques. But even after everything we tried, her episodes continued to happen more and more frequently. She sought out a therapist, but she went only once, and nothing changed.
Eventually, I felt trapped and frightened all the time. I became depressed and developed serious anxiety issues. I stopped going out and hanging with my other friends. Our house became disgusting. I even started peeing in water bottles just to stay away from her. One of my lowest days, I spent it in my filthy bed writing dozens of sad notes and sobbing.
Finally, one day she had a particularly frightening episode in which she broke several glasses in a rage screaming about one of her ex-boyfriends. The night after her freakout, I was lying in bed, trembling until hours later after her episode. I realized there was only one way out of this and I started looking for an apartment that night. The day I moved, I completely cut her out of my life. I’ve seen her once since then, but it was brief. Last I heard, she is moving into her parents’ house after living in three different apartments with multiple roommates.
We were best friends since high school. We knew each other for over ten years and even made a blood pact together as teenagers. We went on dozens of vacations together, took care of each other when we were sick, and spent entire days together doing nothing but talking. She was the most important thing to me for a large chunk of my life, and it was really hard to throw away that friendship. Now six months later, my new apartment is spotless, I haven’t been late on rent once, and I am even planning to host Thanksgiving at my house this year.
#24 Politics Over Friendship
#23 Not The Christmas Gift She Was Hoping For
I came home for my first Christmas after being stationed across the country. I was super excited to see my friends and more so my best friend and her family. I went to her house. My bestie was acting super strange and wouldn’t look me in the eye or talk directly to me.
A few days later, I was doing my daily social media scroll and saw that she had been dating my ex-boyfriend. She had just posted their first Christmas pictures together as a couple. I tried to have a conversation about it and tell her that it was okay. During that conversation, she decided she would rather cut me out of her life.
I’m guessing she was ashamed or didn’t want to deal with the awkwardness.
#22 Disrespecting Grandma Is Crossing The Line
#21 The Truth Is Sometimes Too Tough To Take
Years later, I saw him at the bar and told him we needed to bury the hatchet. He told me he couldn’t do that after what I said to him.
I hear she is still cheating on him.
Miss my best friend.
#20 Those Friendship Rules Just Won’t Fly
She started demanding that I reply to her texts within 10 minutes. She also asked me to call her “master.” We are both girls, I am straight, and we were never involved romantically. It’s like she changed completely in two months.
#19 A Friend Of Antivax Is No Friend Of Mine
#18 Save The Judgments For God, Please
I have a daughter with a genetic disorder, and she was really sick when she was born, which was shocking to everyone because we had no idea anything was wrong.
As we were processing and grieving, my best friend told me, “My mom and I think that your daughter is a punishment from God for your past sins.”
#17 The Worst Welcome Home Imaginable
#16 A Real Friend Wouldn’t Even Think That, Let Alone Say It
#15 Two Very Different Paths
We were friends from the very beginning of primary school but drifted apart in our last year of high school. She started hanging out with older friends, partying, and taking illegal substances. I was focused on doing well in my final exams and getting into a good university.
Shortly after we finished high school, she got pregnant and I never really saw her again after that, as her boyfriend didn’t really want her hanging out with any of her old friends. She has two kids now, and last I heard she was planning on going to university. I wish her well, but our lives just went down very different paths in the end.
#14 Don’t You Hate It When Feelings Get In The Way?
He was my best friend, but then he started having feelings for me. It was hard for him to continue being around me, and we eventually drifted apart.
#13 Sometimes You Have No Choice But To Move On
#12 Someone Needs A Serious Attitude Adjustment
I couldn’t handle her attitude anymore. She used to be a pretty chill, logical person who could admit when she overreacted or would give warnings she was in a bad mood.
She started dating a guy who encouraged a lot of bad and irrational behaviors. She’s a totally different person now. Nothing is ever her fault; the world is just out to get her. She’s constantly going back and forth between extreme emotions but refuses to get help even though she has insurance and can afford it. She also doesn’t think anything is wrong with her. It’s everyone else who can’t handle her.
And what actually bothers me the most is how she still wants to talk to me all the time. It’s clearly set up to prompt me into asking her questions about her life, and her life only.
I hate people who try to have conversations like that. You clearly want to talk about something, so just say it. I refuse to talk to someone who is just prompting.
#11 Growing Apart Is Harder Than It Seems
We’re in our 50s now and have families of our own. We still have some mutual friends, but for reasons unknown, he never seemed interested in contacting me after his service days. Maybe it was just because I didn’t join? We both knew that was not my path.
I used to visit his family when he was away, so maybe they told him I was a freak. We went through a lot of crazy stuff together, and we thought we’d be friends forever.
I just chalked it up to people moving away and drifting apart
#10 She Gave The Word Ghosted Meaning
#9 The Pain Of Trauma Can Be Stronger Than The Bond Of Friendship
#8 It’s Either Me Or The Guns
#7 Three Is A Crowd
#6 Immoral And Immature To Boot
#5 Racism Is Never Good For A Friendship
We are both white, and I married an Indian man, who has a child. I love his child like my own. Anyway, my ex-best friend and her boyfriend made comments about how their little white girl couldn’t marry “someone like that,” in reference to my stepson, along with some other nasty racial stuff. She was okay telling me about it while laughing.
#4 When Your Best Friend Gets Violent On You, It’s Over
#3 Stealing From Your Friends Won’t Get You Far
#2 Saying No To Her Fiance Wasn’t Good Enough