Women Share What They Find Most Confusing About Men
Men and women are not wired the same, and that is an evolutionary fact. This different “wiring” can have a real impact on the way each gender thinks and behaves. Women from across the world took to the internet to share the things they find absolutely baffling about men, and it probably won’t be hard for people to relate to the points they make.
To give you a taste of what you’ll come across in this article, some of the things that the women agreed upon were that men are: 1) selective listeners, 2) unattentive to details, and 3) terrible texters. Perhaps some male readers out there might be able to shed some light onto some of these mysteries and clear up some of the confusion.
#1 He’s Been Feeling E-Motions
Why do men dismiss women as being overly emotional, or use PMS as some kind of insult, when they scream and shout when their beloved football team loses? Grown men cry at the World Cup when their team gets knocked out. I just don’t get how some of them can’t accept that being upset about something, or crying, is a valid emotion that everyone feels and is perfectly normal. Men who do cry can be seen as “too girly” or “not a proper man” when actually they are giving normal responses to things that are sad.
#2 Details Shmetails
#3 Where Do They Come Up With This Stuff?
I haven’t noticed this with girls, but I have noticed that my husband will just stare out into space with severe concentration. I’ll be like, “What’s wrong, babe?” and he will say something like, “If all of our pets attacked me at once, do you think I could fight them off?” I’ve seen other guys do this too, it’s just so fascinating.
#4 Thanks For Tuning Me Out
#5 Friendships Are Different With Men
#6 Ego Over Convenience
#7 Who Needs A Plot Anyway?
#8 All It Takes Is A Little Thing Called Paying Attention
#11 Get The Priorities Straight Please
#12 No One Thinks It’s For You, Man
#13 Flowers Are For Everyone
#14 Get Your Hygiene In Order
#15 Insatiable Obsessions With Cars
#16 No Wonder Rabbits Have So Much Energy
The next morning, I went up to him and said, “Here’s your smoothie and a small lunch so you’re not tired!”
He then said, “I don’t eat rabbit food.”
For the life of me, I don’t understand how guys process raw, post-breakup emotion without the emotional support offered by friends or family. How do you heal properly?
#18 Insensitive By Accident
Guy A: Today was horrible. I got bombed with work by the boss last minute, five minutes before I was about to leave.
Guy B: Well, you don’t really have a choice do you? He’s your boss…
Guy A: Yeah… Let’s go out for some pizza, I could really use some relaxation time.
Guy B: Okay.
Now, here’s the same conversation between a girl and a guy:
Girl: Today was horrible. I got bombed with work by the boss last minute, five minutes before I was about to leave.
Guy: Well, you don’t really have a choice do you. He’s your boss…
*Girl gets angry because, in her eyes, the guy is being insensitive to her feelings.*
My question is, do guys ever just think before they speak sometimes? I know they’re more direct and all, but do they ever consider that their words can sound insensitive to girls, especially to girls who don’t know that guys are more direct? This problem has led to many heated arguments between me and my dad because I’d think he was being insensitive until my mom explained to me what was really going on.
#19 Not Everyone Has The Gift Of Good Gift Giving
I don’t know if this has just been my experience or what, but it sure seems like being good at giving gifts is a gendered trait. I have never dated a man who was good at giving gifts. It’s frustrating because often they will go out and grab something last minute as a peace offering during a holiday rather than put legitimate time and effort into finding something their partner will appreciate. You KNOW Christmas is on the same day every year, so why not start thinking about what you are going to give your partner, maybe before Boxing Day?
#20 We Have Cabinets? Who Knew.
#21 Emotional Intelligence Is Important
#22 Not All Talking Is Flirting
#23 Travel Plans: The Ultimate Secret
Men don’t share travel plans with each other. My good guy friend of mine (let’s call him Pete) mentioned to me that he met this guy and they became really close friends. Pete would be at his house for hours each day watching football or playing video games. At some point, he told me he hadn’t heard from his friend in a couple of days and he became worried.
After a week of not hearing from him, not replying to his texts, calls, etc., Pete thought his friend just didn’t want to hang out anymore. He felt pretty upset. After about 10 days, Pete called me and told me it was just a misunderstanding. His friend had gone on a 10-day cruise and he didn’t have WiFi the entire trip.
In the four to five months that they were friends before this cruise, that conversation never came up once. Not even a simple,“Oh, I’m going on a cruise next week,” or anything. This situation is just so funny to me. Not only would my friends and I have talked about it, but they would have helped me pick outfits, pack my suitcase, etc. The difference between men and women.
#24 What’s So Bad About Washing Your Hands?
#25 Bad People Need Friends Too
This is probably my own life experience but the guys I’ve known have been more okay with their friends being bad people. They’ll always shrug it off and say, “That’s just them,” and never actually stand up to them or cut them out. My female friends are much more likely to “curate” who is in their lives. Why is this?
#26 Skincare Is For All Genders
#27 “You’re Beautiful Without Makeup”
Why do men I get into a relationship with constantly tell me to “relax ” and don’t worry about anything when it comes to my body or my looks? I’m kind of high maintenance and look like the type of woman that men stereotypically want. But when I’m in a relationship with them, they don’t want me to keep up, or keep trying so hard. How many women have heard, “You don’t need makeup on, you’re beautiful without it,” and then discover the women they fantasize about actually look like Barbie dolls? I wear extensions, lashes and I spray tan. And I feel great about myself. But the men I’m with always seem to undercut my efforts and tell me to stop. Even when I know they got with me because they thought I was beautiful that way. I don’t think it’s insecurities. Do men have a different preference for women they are in a relationship with than the women they drool over? Help me out.
#28 We Don’t All Want Bad Boys
#29 And He Says, “No Comment”
I don’t understand why a high number of men can’t tell me if another guy is attractive or good looking. They respond with, “I don’t know, I’m not gay,“ as if you have to be homosexual to tell if someone looks good. I figured that this is only a thing for men with very fragile masculinity; mature men don’t have a problem with it. However, I have never met a woman who responded in such an inane way. Maybe someone can explain why it’s so hard for certain men?
#30 Not Buying The “Ball And Chain” Bit
#31 Men Think They are Allergic To Serious Conversations
#32 His Friends Know A Completely Different Version Of Him
Men completely change around their friends. They talk a big game about women and how we all turn into crazy girls once we get around our pals, but men do like, a complete 180. They turn from wonderful men to completely horrible people in two seconds flat.
#33 It’s My Face And I’ll Smile When I Want To
Why do men who are complete strangers tell me to smile? This is my face! It makes me want to jump on them and gouge their eyeballs out while screaming, “Why don’t you smile?”
#34 Swim Trunks Are Underwear
Some men wear their underwear under their swim trunks. Why?
#35 Help A Sister Out
#36 Three Years Later And He Still Doesn’t Know Where The Forks Are
Men are so terrible at finding things. I’ve lived with my fiancé in the same apartment for three years, and he still doesn’t know where things are.
#37 If You Don’t Love Her, Leave Her
Why is it that guys can go through months of being in a serious relationship before he realizes he doesn’t want to be serious with that person? It takes women much less time to determine that and we don’t generally take serious steps until we know. It has happened to me twice and to many many other friends of mine.
#38 It’s All In The Details
#40 As He Lay Dying
#41 Competition Is In Their DNA
Men hurt themselves in idiotic ways for fun and bragging rights. For example, I saw two grown men punch their hands in a fire ant bed and leave them there, glaring intensely and cussing at each other, just to see who could stand it longer. No money was wagered. They were just doing it to prove they could be better than each other. When they couldn’t agree on a winner, they did the same thing with their feet.
I have never seen a woman do anything like that. Not to say they never do, but the vast majority of dumb competition injuries I’ve seen have been with men.
#42 On The Topic Of Body Hair
I wonder why some of the guys at my school think that leg hair is gross, while having leg hair of their own.