Single Men Reveal What Instantly Made Them Turn Down A Second Date
The world of dating is a tumultuous one. While singledom should be fun and exciting, it can often be fraught with awkward conversations, cringe-worthy encounters, and downright disastrous dates. Finding “the one” certainly isn’t easy—and no one knows that better than the people who have spent a good amount of time exploring the dating scene.
A lot of the times, you go on a handful of dates with someone and get to know them before you decide you just aren’t compatible with each other. Other times, all it takes is one bad date to know there just isn’t any chance of there being a second. Whether it’s because of something the other person said or did, sometimes men know instantly that a second date isn’t something they are up for. Just take it from these single men who recently revealed what instantly made them turn down a second date.
#45 Not Good With Animals
We went to her place and all of her pets and plants were all dead. I saw her goldfish floating upside down in a fish tank, and she had a dead hamster in a cage on her dining room table. All she said was, “That happens a lot,” and all I kept imagining was hamster after hamster starving to death right in front of her. The word “sociopath” floated into my mind. I made some excuses to leave and she went a bit nutty, which concerned me quite a bit… but at least I had already figured out her head was seriously spun.
#44 Negative Nancy
She rolled her eyes when I said she looked nice. She criticized where I chose to eat. She complained about the music we were listening to. I spent the whole date anxious, assuming that she hated every moment because, you know, she didn’t have anything positive to say about anything. Then I get:
“I had a good time! Let’s do this again.”
Nah, I’m good. I’ve got enough negativity and mixed signals coming from my own brain. I don’t need that coming from the outside too.
#43 Bad Movie Date
I once went to a movie on a first date with a girl. She got there late and the movie had already started. She then started to talk during the movie in the middle of the crowded theater. I didn’t shush her or anything, but everything I replied with was a one-word answer because I kept trying to end the conversation. She got up halfway through and said I was obviously not interested in her. She was right.
#42 Not A Cat Lady
Her: “You’d have to get rid of your cat.”
Me: “I’d get rid of you first.”
And that was the end of that. Actually, I’ve had two women tell me I’d have to get rid of my cat, pretty much immediately. A cat is a lifetime commitment.
#41 Textee McGee
We went to dinner and she was on her phone the entire time, texting. Even when we were talking. I figured she was just in it for a free dinner, because really,what’s the point of agreeing to date if you’re not going to try to get to know the person?
#40 The Phone Nabber
I went for a meal with this girl I met through a dating app and it was going really well. We started talking about movies and then we decided to go to the cinema to watch Inception. She said there was a cinema nearby but I didn’t know the area at all, so I used the GPS on my phone while she held it and directed me.
Once we got there, we started walking inside and I realized I didn’t have my phone in my pocket. I said I must have left it in the car and started to walk back to get it. She was trying to get me to leave it, saying we would miss the film, but the phone was only about a week old so I was really paranoid about it. We checked the car for about 10 minutes but we couldn’t find it. I asked her to check her jacket and bag but she said it wasn’t there.
A couple parked next to us so I asked them to ring my number because I couldn’t find it. It started to ring and it was obviously coming from my date’s handbag. She took it out and said she must have missed it. I thanked the couple, locked my car and as I turned back around she was walking the other way. I ran to catch up to her and asked what was going on, but she was very dismissive. That’s when I realized it probably wasn’t an accident and just left her to walk home alone.
#39 Too Busy To Brush
Teeth as black as night. She didn’t have any diseases or syndromes but simply “no time” to brush her teeth.
For the record, her photos didn’t show her teeth.
#37 The Supertaster
I met a girl from my university for dinner one time and she started the date off by saying she only ate with her hands… She said she didn’t use utensils because she was a “supertaster” and could taste the metals in the food. It wouldn’t have been a problem if we were eating finger foods, of course, but it was a problem as I watched her eat a salmon filet and wild rice like Gollum…
#36 The Negligent Nurse
I met a nurse on a dating app. She told me she disliked all her patients and that sometimes she would simply ignore them for long periods of time. That’s a no from me.
#35 Disheveled At Dinner
She showed up in a dirty white dress and her hair looked like it had not been brushed in months. During dinner she told me that she still lived at home, never wanted to get a job and that she stole her dad’s car while he was asleep to meet me at the restaurant. Then, when she found out that I was divorced, she said, “You didn’t work hard enough to save your marriage.” I put down the chopsticks, paid for the dinner, and said, “Nice meeting you.”
In case anyone is curious, I remarried and adopted her daughter right after the marriage. They are both awesome people.
#34 Coffee Date
We went out for coffee. She kept topping her cup up with something to get her tipsy. I politely asked her what the deal was, and she said she liked to party. When it was time to go, she fell over and started screaming at me to help her up.
I helped her up, told her to wait right there, and left.
#33 Murderer In The Making
We met up for a coffee and a mid-afternoon sweet treat. All was going fairly well; not great chemistry, but she seemed fairly interesting. At one point, she asked me what I thought was a great first date question: “If you knew you were going to go to jail at some point in your future, what do you think it would be for?” I thought about it for a while and said something like insider trading. “What about you?” I followed up.
Without missing a beat, she said, “Probably for hurting someone.” Then, she named the person she wanted to hurt and said that if I ever saw that person’s name on the news, I should tell the police that she did it. I had hoped she was joking, but I don’t think so. I finished my coffee, said thanks and left.
#32 Oversleeping And Overindulging
I was supposed to pick her up at noon. I got to the house on time and knocked, but she didn’t answer. I texted her multiple times. She finally responded and opened the door. She told me she was sorry and that she had overslept. She went to the freezer, pulled out a bunch of ingredients, mixed a huge Bloody Mary and gulped it down. She made a second one right after and did the same thing, then said, “Let’s go.”
The date wasn’t that bad, but I just can’t roll like that.
#31 Searching For A Stepdad
She spent 30 minutes talking about her ex, who sat on his butt at home playing Xbox the entire time that she was working two jobs. Then, after she finished this speech, she spent 10 more minutes telling me that she was now on the hunt for a man who had a job, money and would take care of her and her kids.
I left after this part. I paid for dinner though.
#30 Don’t Help The Help
I was cleaning up my area after I ate and I started stacking the dishes to make the waiter’s job easier. She told me to stop and let “the help” do it. It took me a second to realize she wasn’t joking. She started on a rant about how I should never help them because they need to learn to help themselves. We split the check, she scoffed, and I left. Later on, she asked why I haven’t texted her. I didn’t reply.
#29 Can’t Deal With Ketchup
We sat down at a corner booth and she was sitting really close to me. She was extremely rude to our server, saying things like, “I want lemonade. No ice. Did you get that, sweetheart? I said no ice. Don’t screw it up.”
Then, when our food got in, she used almost an entire squirt bottle of Heinz 57 ketchup on her broccoli cheese casserole. At the same time, she was trying to whisper seductively in my ear, saying things like, “You’re hot,” and “Let’s fool around.” But all I could focus on was the smell of the ketchup and it made me want to actually vomit and die.
We did not go out again.
#28 The Business Of Baking
I went out with a doctor. I understand that her job is important and that she should be proud of it. However, she would not stop bragging about how good she was at it. At one point, she said she was thinking of quitting to open up a bakery and become a baker. I asked if she had any experience and she said she didn’t. She simply concluded that she could do it because she was so smart that she could easily learn it and be successful right away.
I know people who bake professionally and it’s a lot of work. You can’t just jump into it and open a business. I don’t know if I’ve gone out with anyone quite so insufferable.
#27 A Vehicle For Venting
She spent a good chunk of the date talking about the bad dates she had been on recently. She went into pretty good detail about them all, especially this one date where the guy was obnoxious, invited her back to his place (despite an apparent lack of chemistry) and did not know how to take no for an answer.
I wanted to interrupt her so badly and tell her she could add our date to her list, considering she spent the whole time being negative about things that had nothing to do with me. She asked me the next day if we should get another drink sometime and I said I was busy.
#26 Nice Homes and Conspiracy Theories
I met this beautiful girl at a club and after talking to her, I was able to get her number. What she had in looks she definitely lacked in brains, but that wasn’t even the issue.
After the date, on the way back to her place, she made me drive through a neighborhood of multimillion-dollar homes and made it clear to me that she expected her future husband to provide for her.
To top it all off, her dad was a huge conspiracy theorist and made me sit down to discuss dozens of whacky conspiracies while the girl sat silently beside me. It was seriously awful.
#25 Hungover As A Hobby
I play video games. It’s a hobby that I enjoy and make time for, but it’s not something that consumes my entire life—I’m physically active and I eat healthily.
She seems to think that anyone who plays any kind of video game is an unhealthy and unfit nerd. It’s quite an unfair assumption, considering her only “hobby” is going out to clubs and getting tipsy with her friends.
#24 Vegan Or Go
We had great chemistry, but she told me that if I wanted to be with her, I needed to be vegan. She told me she had forced every guy she ever dated to be vegan, and She gave me the same ultimatum. I respected her honesty, but I knew she wasn’t for me. It just got me to thinking about what other ultimatums she would possibly force on me if we were together.
#23 Bitter About Bill
When the check came, I had already laid down my card to pay. Out of courtesy (or so I thought), she asked if I wanted to split the bill. I said sure. When I walked her back to her car, I asked if I could kiss her goodnight. She said no because she didn’t kiss guys who don’t pay for her food.
#22 Distracted During Date
When I was eating dinner with her, she was on her phone the whole time, with headphones in. When she got up to go to the bathroom, I peeked at her phone to see what she was watching that was so goddamn interesting.
Adult movies. She had been watching adult movies for most of the date.
#21 A Debrief On Wrongdoings
She hadn’t been on a date in a few years. We got as far as dinner, movie and the hotel room and before she noped out. No big deal. I did the right thing: I was very nice about it, called her a cab, walked her down, then went back to the hotel room.
Five minutes later, I started getting bombarded with text messages from her. She was telling me all the things I did wrong during the date and how I could improve for the next time.
I told her that I wasn’t especially keen on receiving a debrief, but she continued to hammer me with several more messages. She was clearly being deliberately hurtful.
She continued on for several more minutes before noting that she would be open for another date. “So when are you going to call me?” she asked.
Dude, what the heck?!
#20 Problematic Pictures
She used outdated pictures on Tinder. She wasn’t as young or thin when she showed up for our date. I’m okay with a thick woman, but what really turned me off was her dishonesty. That was the problem, off the bat.
#19 Truthful About Trophy Wife Wish
I took this girl out on a date. We had known each other for a few months at this point. I asked her what she wanted to do after graduating college. Her response stunned me.
“I want to marry someone rich so I can sit at home and eat McDonald’s all day. I’ll be a trophy wife.”
My jaw dropped and immediately I looked around for the waitress to bring me the check.
I thought for a while that she was just trolling me, but it turns out she was dead serious. Her mom was some big wig within McDonald’s Corp and the girl was addicted to it.
#18 Rigged About Religion
I went out with this girl who I knew was pretty religious, but she was still pretty cool and not like, on a “nutty” level of religious. On our first date, we went out to a bar together.
After a couple of weeks, she asked me to come to some event with her youth group. I tried to make it out, but we both ended up being too busy. She then said to me, “You know, I just wanted us to go on a more serious date, more than just hanging out at the local bar.”
That pretty much killed my interest. Sorry, I don’t want to go on a second date at your church.
#17 Money Obviously No Issue
On our first date, she asked me what my family did for work. I told her, and she began rambling about how her father makes $90,000 a year as a natural gas technician. I told her that was cool, and she replied with, “Yeah, he’s pretty rich. Look at what he gave me before I left the house.” She pulled out two $100 bills from her purse. At this point, I was pretty put off, but she continued to talk about how I probably wished my parents gave me money like hers did. I didn’t realize I had the privilege of going on a date with such an upper-class woman… The condescending tone sealed the deal.
I left her with the bill since money was obviously not an issue for her.
#16 Much Too Quiet
She was really, really, really insecure and quiet. Normally that wouldn’t bother me, but it really clashed with my outgoing personality. That, and she kept apologizing any time there was a lull in the conversation.
Though, if I’m being honest, I did ask her out a second time because I thought she just had first date nerves and I wanted to give her another chance. Spoiler alert: the second date wasn’t much better.
#15 Train Wreck Of A Human
I went out on a date with a girl I worked with. We went to a bar and on the Uber ride home she threw up in the backseat.
I brought her inside, started a shower for her and told her to freshen herself up. I put her clothes in the washing machine and started a quick load, then got her some fresh clothes before putting her to bed. As she was falling asleep, she asked me if I could text her babysitter to make sure her kid is okay. No problem! I opened her phone and on the screen was a conversation she was having with another guy. I’ve never felt so played in my entire life, but I’m super glad I dodged any kind of relationship with that trainwreck of a human.
#14 Curious Over Coffee
We went on a coffee date. She asked me about my job and I explained it. Then, she followed up with, “Oh, that’s really interesting, how much does someone who does that job even make?” She had this look on her face as if she thought she was being sly.
I’m SO proud because I picked up my coffee and replied, “Not enough to pay for the next date,” and walked out.
#13 Not Interested In Interrogating
I went on a date where I had to carry the entire conversation. I got one-sentence answers to the questions I asked about her family, work and vacations. It felt like a job interview after a while.
I just wanted to have a conversation. I never intended to grill her with questions about her past. In retrospect, maybe she just wasn’t interested and was looking to tank the date. If so, mission accomplished.
#12 The Casual Con Artist
She told me that she learned to make a key out of a pop can and would often break into her parents’ medicine cabinet.
#11 The Plane Truth
She told me she had never flown in a plane before, which was fine, but then she proceeded to say that she “doesn’t believe in planes.” I then explained to her that things, like planes, exist regardless if she understood how they work or not.
#10 Follow The Leader
We left the bar we were at and walked around looking for another one. She was walking really quickly and just walked into a random one, without asking me what I thought first. She didn’t let me know. I guess she was expecting me to just follow her. I don’t know why that really rubbed me the wrong way, but I just was not into it for the rest of the evening.
#9 The Asian Assumptions
I hate when they use general statements. I’m Asian, so apparently, I’m Chinese, Japanese, or Korean.
My favorite one was a girl who said we’d be great together because she loved sushi and can use chopsticks properly. We were in an Italian restaurant and she asked if I usually used chopsticks.
#8 Too Good To Be True
Oddly, every time I’ve dated a girl, it always went on to multiple dates and at least a few months of a relationship, if not a few years. I haven’t been on a plethora of dates though. I’m pretty selective in who I date.
There’s one exception to that. It was actually the best first date I ever had. Why didn’t it continue? Because according to her, it was too good of a first date. We hit it off too well and for some reason that concerned her.
#7 Crocs and Camera
She wore Crocs on the first date. And took photos of her lunch with some crazy ass vintage camera. It was mostly the Crocs that did it for me though.
#6 The Frito Fumes
She smelled heavily of Fritos. Not even joking. The smell was so heavy that after she left my apartment, I had to buy a bottle of extra strength Febreeze to do something about the corn chip stank. I have no idea what makes someone smell that strongly of Fritos and I can’t imagine how many Fritos one would have to eat for that smell to be your only smell. I severed things with her after the first date.
#5 All Alarms Set Off
I went on a date and she got belligerently tipsy. She threatened people at the next table at the pub, flirted with dudes at the bar, and then, as we were leaving, she pulled the fire alarm.
#4 Earwax Eater
When she thought no one was looking, she stuck a finger in her ear, worked out a nice large chunk of earwax, and ate it.
#3 Cut Class To Be Here
I met a girl online who said she was a junior in college, but she was actually a 16-year-old junior in high school and she cut class to have lunch with me. I figured nothing good could come of that and noped right out of there.
#2 Treatin’ Herself
She admitted to eating the dog treats they sell at Petco.
#1 Just Not For Me
She was easy to talk to as we had a bunch of common interests. She herself had an interesting personality, as well as a lot of good stories to tell. But I just didn’t feel any kind of romantic connection during the process.
This is a friendly reminder that just because someone doesn’t want a second date doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t like you or that you messed up somehow. I wish I had the presence of mind to tell her this.