People Share Something Their Crush Did That Immediately Made Them Lose Interest
When you have a crush on someone, it can be easy to overlook their minor faults. Some of their more major faults, however, are harder to ignore and they may even cause a crush to end as abruptly as it began. Treating service workers poorly, getting too clingy too quickly, and throwing tantrums like a toddler—these are all relationship dealbreakers.
Some interesting personal stories involving those very dealbreakers are detailed below as internet users from around the world share their experiences of crushes gone sour. No matter how many boxes someone’s crush seems to tick, or how handsome or beautiful a person may be, there are just some things that can’t be overlooked when considering a potential romantic partner.
#1 Stealing From Many People At Once
#2 Not Exactly The Ideal For Adulting
#3 A Proud Golddigger
She told me that she essentially wanted to become a gold digger like her mother. When I laughed it off, she couldn’t understand what I thought was so funny. She legitimately said that her dream was to be a full-time sugar baby to some old billionaire. Now that I think about it, the girl has never worked a job in her life, despite the fact that she herself isn’t so well off. Not sure how she got by all these years.
#4 She May Have Actually Been A Psychopath
A cute girl in 9th grade hosted s a party at her house, out in the country. I had a big crush on her. She told everybody that her family raised chinchillas, so naturally, everybody wanted to see the fuzzy critters. There were about a hundred of them, and the ammonia smell was unreal. While snooping around, I found a platform with battery cables on it near the chinchilla farm, and I asked what that was for.
She said, “Here I’ll show you.” She grabbed a little fuzzy critter, clamped the cables on it and threw the switch. Without missing a beat, it ended that critter. It was bizarre that a teenage girl could electrocute an animal that easily. That was the end of my crush, I was actually afraid of her after that. It kind of sucked the life out of the party, to say the least.
#5 No Girl Wants To Be A Wingman For Her Crush
#6 Adult Tantrums Are Not Attractive
#7 A Classic Case Of Mansplaining
#8 He Quickly Realized He Wasn’t A Priority
Back in college, I was seeing a girl casually. Whenever we’d text, she’d take hours to respond to any message. It wasn’t a big deal since most of the time it was just chatting or setting plans for the following weekend or something. It was a little annoying because it’d take a full day or two to set up plans because of the slow responses, but whatever. I’m a bad texter too, so I can’t really judge someone for that.
But I started to notice that when we hung out together, she’d immediately respond back to any and every text she got. She had some loud song as her ringtone that played for like, 15 seconds and set her phone so that her camera LED would flash constantly while it rang. It was totally obnoxious and made me notice how often she really texted. I casually asked her who she was texting one time and she said it was just some friend from school that had sent her a meme.
After that, I realized it wasn’t going to work. Being a slow texter is fine. Constantly texting while hanging out was annoying, but not a dealbreaker. But the realization that this person who was glued to her phone didn’t feel like it was a priority to respond back to my texts made me feel so unimportant. We stayed friends because we shared the same group and it wasn’t awkward or anything. I just stopped trying to do things with just the two of us.
#9 Her Complaints About Her Finances Ended Up Showing Her True Colors
I met a woman who I thought seemed cool. While we were out to eat, she started telling me about how she fell on hard financial times and had to move back in with her parents. The way she described it, just sounded like she got unlucky, rather than did anything irresponsible. It happens. When the bill came, I told her I’d pay. She said, “Thanks, I appreciate that. I’m trying to save my money right now.”
I replied, “Sure, I understand, you want to get your own place again.” Then, she said, “No, actually I mean I’m trying to save up $500 for a tattoo I want to get.” I’ve got nothing against spending money on tattoos, but when you’ve just spent the first date talking about the financial troubles you have, maybe now’s the time to start putting money away for necessities, not tattoos.
#10 Rushing Into Things Was Not His Style
I went on two dates with a girl when I was in college. She was wonderful but immediately wanted to be “official” and started drafting Instagram posts about “us.” She wanted to spend every day together and have sleepovers every night. It was so out of nowhere and we literally knew nothing about one another. I tried to look past it, but then she asked me to be her first and I got uncomfortable. She seemed naive and I didn’t want to take advantage. I suggested we take things slow and she took offense. I cut things off with her and her reaction was super childish. All of this happened in a three week period.
#11 Actually, Cheating Is Never Okay
She gave me a five-minute lecture regarding cheating and started detailing the conditions for when it would be acceptable to cheat on one another. Honestly, I loved her so much that I would have never even considered cheating on her. The fact that she thought there was even some scenario where cheating would be acceptable made me lose interest in her instantly.
#12 She Was A Control Freak And He Wasn’t Having Any Of It
#13 Littering Is Gross
#14 How A Person Treats Their Server Says A Lot About Them
#15 Don’t Mess With The Smile
#16 He’s Not Interested In Her Childish Games
#17 Don’t Be A Jerk To Your Teacher
I had a crush on a guy in high school who was a little bit of a rebel. He did nothing really serious, but he definitely had a bad boy thing going on. One day in class, the teacher told him to do something minor and he flipped out. He basically had a full-on temper tantrum and refused. Just seeing him act like a baby totally killed all interest I had in him.
#18 Kicking A Dog Is A Sign Of Much Deeper Issues
#19 She’s Just A Mean-Spirited Person
#20 He Was A Closeted Bigot
“I have no problem with gay people, or minorities like black, Spanish or Arab people. I just don’t hire them because I don’t trust them. And they steal.” This was said by a crush who I VERY briefly dated. He was the boss of a multi-level marketing company where I live that hired predominately teens and young adults. Like, who takes away a job opportunity from ANYONE due to personal preference or belief system, nonetheless a teen or young adult trying to make their way in the “working” world? I have to also add that I am a half-Spanish woman. He himself was Spanish. I asked to be dropped off at home and that was the end of that.
#21 He Became Unattractive The Second He Considered Cheating On His Wife
I had a harmless crush on a married friend that I did not act on, ever. I’ve been the spurned wife before, so I kept my distance and did everything short of unfriending him on Facebook. He slid on into my DMs right after my separation became public knowledge. He was still married to his wife, with a baby on the way. I didn’t respond. They are divorced now. She’s a really lovely person and deserves so much better.
#22 Flaky And A Liar Is Not A Winning Combination
#23 What’s He Got Against Homeless People?
The guy was an academic. He treated waitstaff appropriately, spoke formally but was still funny, and shared things in common with me. He was the perfect gentleman. While driving me home from our date, at a stoplight, he pointed to a homeless man crossing the street and said, “I would stop my car for anybody crossing the street, just not homeless men. Where do they have to be? They’re in no hurry.” I thought to myself, okay… that was unsolicited. He added another comment, “It’d be funny if I ran him over.” I ghosted him right after he dropped me off.
#24 Playing Rough Isn’t For Everyone
For context, he is a 6’4”, a built dude. I’m a 5’0, non-built lady. We were hanging out at his house when he ‘jokingly’ blocked my way when it was time for me to go and wouldn’t let me pass. I asked him to let me by and he wouldn’t, so I told him I was uncomfortable. He then called me a crazy witch. That was the end of that for me.
#25 The Chronic Interruptor
#26 Gender Equality Isn’t His Thing
#27 Leave Religion Out Of It
He tried to convert me to his religion. It’s funny because his dad tried to do the same thing to my mom when they were teens (they’ve been friends for over 30 years and at some point, they had been interested in each other). Needless to say, my mom lost interest in his dad because of the same reason too. They were just being way too pushy about it.
#28 She Was Already Looking Like A Bit Of A Clinger
Two days after our first date, she showed up at my work with a pan of homemade lasagna, an ice cream machine for my kids, and all kinds of groceries. I was a single dad at the time and I guess it was some sort of “care package” for me. I’m also two hours from where she lives. When I said she didn’t have to do that, she started to cry. Bit of a red flag.
#29 Just Say No To Anti-Vaxers
Anti-vax. I wouldn’t have known for a long time had she not gone on a rant about it when the school-based immunization schedule was released. She went on some tirade about how we’re all being poisoned, etc. As far as I know, she’s never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. I can’t bring myself to date someone who denies the basic science of something that can save lives.
#30 How A Beautiful Girl Becomes Ugly
#31 Maybe He Was Also One Of The Backups
#32 Don’t Patronize Her
I went on a date with a guy I met on OkCupid. He was cute and I was into him, but then we got onto the topic of our respective careers. I was writing erotica for a living at the time, which I told him pretty openly. I might not have put it front and center on my profile, but it wasn’t like it was something I was ashamed about or anything. He laid his hand gently on mine, looked me deep in the eye, and said, ‘Who hurt you?‘ I’ve never straight-up laughed in a guy’s face before then, but he absolutely refused to believe that I enjoyed writing about sex. There was no second date.
#33 If He Treats His Daughter That Way, Imagine How He Treats His Dates
He was a real jerk to his daughter. I had this cute Park Ranger come into my work for help with application letters. One time, he brought his very young daughter with him and she was four or five-years-old. He kept yelling at her, but not in a normal way. It was clear he always spoke to her like a delinquent teenager. She would be doing something mildly childlike like lifting herself up on the table and he’d yell at her to “Get down, quit fidgeting, and shut up…” Our area was very child-friendly. I gave her some crayons and coloring books and was glad to learn her mother had custody.
#34 She Literally Threw His Kind Gesture In The Trash
When I was about eight-years-old we took a field trip to the Field Museum in Chicago. During our lunch break, I decided to wander off to the gift shop and see what they had. I had a huge crush on this girl named Victoria in my class and I saw this ladybug ring. I knew she liked ladybugs and I had money my parents gave me, so I decided to buy the ring and give it to her.
I was really nervous and kept waiting for the right time to do it. I eventually decided to just go for it and walked up to her near the end of the trip. She was with some of her friends which made me more nervous, but I found the courage to do it. She looked at the ring and laughed. Her friends joined her and she tossed the ring in the trash.
I was completely devastated and tried hard to hold back my tears. Even though I’m over it now, that completely screwed my confidence with girls for a long time. Looking back, I may have embarrassed her too, giving it to her in front of her friends, which is why she reacted that way, but whatever the case, it’s probably the most embarrassed I have been in my life.
#35 He Was Disgusted By Her At The End
#36 He Proved Himself Untrustworthy Real Quick
#37 Just Because He’s Famous Does Not Give Him The Right To Be A Jerk
I had a really big crush on a popular musician from the early 2000s. At the time, I was working as a personal assistant for a famous musician of a different genre, and he and his bandmates were constantly giving me a hard time about having a crush on this guy. Well, my crush ended up having a show in the city. At the time, it was pretty standard for any singer who performed in this city to have an after-party at my boss’ club. So the crush showed up.
My boss went out of his way to bring the guy over to meet me. “This is Alpaca. She is the one who keeps all this running. She knows a little about your music.” So I tell the guy that I am a huge fan, and start to express how one of his songs had really helped me through a rough time. He held up his hand to cut me off, and said, “Yeah okay, I get it, I know I am great. So are we going to your place, or not?”
Boom. My crush was gone. I gave him a slow blink, and popped off, “Well, we definitely won’t be now!” And walked off, as my boss and his buddies laughed their butts off at the look on this pretty boy’s face.
#38 An Annoying Voice Can’t Be Overlooked
I was crushing on this girl from afar for a while. We were on the same military training base. One day, my friend Drew and I was eating lunch and the place was nearly full. It just so happened that she had come to lunch at the same time, and she and her friend ended up sitting next to us. Drew knew the score and gave me an excited, “Good luck buddy!” look.
I was just about to introduce myself, my mouth was open and the words were about to come out… when she started talking to her friend. Her voice sounded like a high-pitched Roseanne Barr. I closed my mouth and turned to give Drew an “I think we’re done here” look, but he was too busy silently laughing at me to notice.
#39 His Crush Turned Into His Stalker
She was a cute intern at the company I worked at who I had a small crush on in the first week or so, but she came on so strongly that it was like a dictionary of red flags. When I realized she was a little intense, I started talking to her a little less at work, though I was still perfectly friendly. Some lunch breaks she would put on earphones and salsa dance seductively by herself in the little break area near my desk.
She was a good dancer, but come on. Things kind of culminated when she turned up on my doorstep at 9 p.m. on a really rainy night. I was like, wow, what are you doing here, but I still invited her to come in to get out of the rain. She refused several times, preferring to stand in the pouring rain while she apologized for everything she’d ever done (no specifics) and then went on a rant about how stupid I was for not coming to her salsa dancing classes when she’d invited me.
I was mostly too surprised to respond, but she was doing enough talking for both of us. Then after 10 to 15 minutes of this, she said, “I should get home.” She turned around, got on her bike, and rode off. Didn’t even say goodnight. One of my housemates had awkwardly been standing in the kitchen for the entire thing and had heard her whole spiel, and she was like, “Man, that girl is about six different flavors of crazy, you were so nice to her.”
It only occurred to me after she left and I was talking about her to my housemate, that I’d never given her my address. To this day, I have no idea how the heck she found out where I lived, short of stalking me and following me home. She wouldn’t have had access to any HR docs at work, she was just an intern. I actively avoided her at work after that, though she acted as if nothing had happened.
When the end of her internship came up and she went back to Germany, she bought me a leaving present. It was an A3 blown-up photo of her laying on her front sunbathing topless, which had been her profile picture on her work Skype account until she’d been asked to change it because her manager said it was inappropriate. It came with a really long letter that basically was telling me what an idiot I am for about five pages. I’m just glad the crush only lasted a week or so.
#40 She Gives Mixed Signals
My coworker at work was just absolutely lovely to be around. She was always smiling at everyone, and she would laugh at my jokes. One day, we were in the break room and she was talking to another guy in the same nice way she talks to me. I started consciously talking myself out of being jealous, reminding myself, “You’re not dating her or anything, you don’t even have her cell phone number. She’s allowed to be lovely with other people.” Then, when the guy left, she turned to the girl next to her and said, “I hate that guy.” And I had JUST been jealous of the way she was treating him. I still feel foolish when I think about it. Does she like me or hate me?
#41 “You Don’t Treat People Like That”
My first friend in college sat next to me in English class and we immediately clicked. One day, she suggested we go out and study together for finals, and I didn’t give it much thought. Turns out, she liked me as much as I liked her, so you could imagine my reaction. It was what happened next that changed the mood. When she ordered a coffee, they made a small mistake and she flipped out.
She started cursing at the cashier, demanding a full refund. I sat there confused—this was the same girl who looked shy and reserved at first glance. She walked out, I apologize profusely and followed after her. I told her it just wouldn’t work out between us. It was awkward in class the next day, to say the least. She refused to move seats and she sat next to me the entire time.
#42 Who Fakes A New York Accent For A Whole Semester?
He revealed that he had been faking his New York accent all semester, including whenever he was talking to professors and other students. He was a boring Michigander just like the rest of us! He was an all-around good guy otherwise—it was just that stupid lie that made him so unattractive to me. Why fake an accent, and New York one at that?