People Share The Most Messed Up Thing An Ex Has Done After Breaking Up

Breakups aren’t often a particularly pleasant experience for either party in a relationship. Whether mutual or not, genuinely amicable splits are few and far between. However, not every breakup is just averagely awful. Some relationships don’t just end poorly, they’re followed by months of torment, insanity, and confrontation. And while some people manage to eventually move on, others commit nearly unforgivable crimes against their unassuming exes!

Sure, revenge can be fulfilling– but not when you’re on the wrong side of it, and it’s taken to the extreme. These unfortunate exes of crazy significant others found out the hard way that happy times and freedom don’t follow every breakup. Sometimes, exes have gone as far as burning possessions, following them to other states, climbing in their windows, and manipulating them in other frightening ways. These frightened people came to share the worst thing that their exes did once they finally decided to cut the cord!

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#35 They Obviously Think They’re ‘Holier Than Thou’

Put me on the mailing and call list for every church group she could find. For two months my phone was blowing up with calls from churches and evangelicals, they wanted money, they wanted to send me Bibles and pamphlets. The ones that had my address did send me Bibles and pamphlets. Took a lot of patient explaining, and occasionally some frustrated yelling to get myself removed from everything.



#34 I’m Seeing Double

Sent me an album of her with the guy she dumped me for in all the places I took her.



#33 That’s An Odd Utensil Of Choice

My ex-wife moved out while I was at basic training, and she took all the spoons in the kitchen. Serving spoons, teaspoons, soup spoons, even measuring spoons. Left all knives and forks. Honestly, who does that?



#32 Well, That Certainly Backfired

She got pregnant by a guy with a daughter that is older than her. Then the old man moved into her parents’ house with her. Funny thing is that part of the reason we broke up was she “needed someone who could take care of her.” I was in college at the time as well as working, and his 40-something years of life didn’t leave him with enough money to rent an apartment. I’m buying a house in a few months. Wrong horse, sugar.



#31 So… Where’s The Restraining Order Again?

He continued to come over “unwelcomed” to stay the night. By “come over to stay the night” I mean peak in my ground level windows and eventually break in, then fall asleep on my bedroom floor. I was woken by the sound of snoring that wasn’t from my cat. Did I mention he was engaged at this point? The next day he denied doing it. Then there is the day he was waiting for me after work. A confrontation happened and I slammed his thumb in the door of his Jeep. That black finger looked good in his engagement photos. The night before his wedding he begged me to sleep with him so he could call off the wedding. That didn’t happen. Uh, then there is the stalking, breaking into my Internet accounts, anything to get his fix. I believe he looks at my Reddit account, hoping I’ll post nudes.


#30 You Have To Admire Her Dedication

I had an ex-show up at my parents’ house (I was 19 and living with them), and demand we work things out. I asked her to leave and she refused. I grabbed my then 11-year-old brother, put him in my car and tried to leave. She blocked the driveway with her body, so I had to drive in the yard. She then gets pissed that I’ve left and drives to my mother’s place of employment to talk to her about it! After my mom told her to leave her work, she shows back up at my house and refuses to leave again. I locked up the house and she sat on the porch swing for three hours before my stepdad arrived home from work, tossed gas money at her and told her to get the heck off his property.

She was crazy.


#29 Next-Level Silence Treatment

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. And that was the most messed up thing. Nine years together, two married. One day she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore. A week later I find out she’s seeing another guy. A couple of weeks later it had all fallen apart and she moved out. To go from sharing everything with each other, to absolute silence is so hard.

Didn’t want to talk to me, see me, or have me contact any of her family. It was like she died there and then. I later found out she had got pregnant with someone else in less than a year after walking out.


#28 How Is This Even Possible?

My ex reopened several credit cards that we had jointly but had paid off and closed before the divorce. Somehow she opened them back in my name and charged them to the max, then moved out of state and stopped paying her car payment. All of these things ended up getting reported to my credit years later and pretty much ruined any chance I have at decent credit for the next seven-to-ten years in the U.S. I’ve been divorced and lived outside the U.S. for eight years now and only recently found out about all these charges. I know all this can be corrected eventually but the hassle of explaining things to several credit companies and collection agencies is a major pain.


#27 Well, She Wasn’t Completely Lying

False felony charges. Basically claimed that I had stuck her computer in the rain… which was technically true. The computer was a 2003 Dell XPS that I had recovered the data from (this was 2013) and which sat in my room until I stuck it next to the garbage… because it was garbage. She was friends with a lot of cops and basically had them coach her on how to craft the affidavit. Actually had to go through court on this. Ended up paying $500 in “restitution” just to get the charges dropped so I wouldn’t have to spend two years of my life fighting a felony vandalism charge.

To give a little context, this parasite lived with me rent- and utility-free for two years before this happened.


#26 Now That’s Just Childish

He made about a hundred or so little fliers and put them around town saying something to the extent of: “You suck, got a problem with that? Call FroggiJoy87 @ my home phone number or go to: my home address”. My family had to put up with angry idiots calling and showing up to our house for weeks.


#25 Someone’s Making A Big Mistake

First off, this guy broke up with me because he wanted to be straight. Two days later, I had to drive him to a convention in Oklahoma from Nebraska (prior arrangement, thought we were friends still). The first day we are there, he says he’s dating a girl. He just met this girl too. Three days later, he asked her to marry him. Can you guess what she said? Yes, the girl said yes. Talk about turbo.


#24 This Is Something Out Of A Movie

Find out that the older fellow she left me for, a malodorous, cock-eyed con man, had somehow managed to knock her up despite (maybe to spite) her birth control efforts. Swung back into town, explained that she left him, coerced me into one-night-stand, left town again with said Quasimodo-faced swindler, and then tried to claim from afar that I was the poor little mutant’s biological parent. I don’t believe that any genetic testing was ever done, but no effort to collect was ever made beyond that initial announcement— the unfortunate rugrat, bless her genetically underprivileged little heart, was so amblyopic she nearly lost function in one eye.


#23 Please Don’t Put Time On Me

A buddy of mine was living in America at the time while his fiance of a few years was back in England. When he went back to visit he found that she was sleeping with his best friend and basically kicked him out of their house.

To get revenge he bought 100 alarm clocks that he could set the day as well as hour and minutes. When he went to collect his things one afternoon, while the ex-fiance was away, he hid them all over the house. And by all over the house I mean in the vents, in the insulation of the attic right above her bedroom, everywhere! The kicker, he set most of them for big days in their lives like their anniversary, birthdays, etc.


#22 “Cruelty” Doesn’t Even Cover It

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me, then logged onto my UCAS account, and declined all five of my university offers so I had to wait another year to attend university and do it all again.


#21 Yes, You Read That Right

A guy that I broke up with two months earlier showed up at my house at 2 AM and banged on the door until I opened it. He pushed his way past me into the house, and put a dead, skinned rabbit in my freezer. It was almost completely skinned, but the head was intact, ears and all. I have no idea where he got it, but it was just in a plastic grocery bag. I actually couldn’t tell what it was until after he left, because it was all wrapped up. I was trying to stay calm, but he’s 6’3 and I’m only 5’5. It was scary! He was completely sober too. Did I mention that he lived 90 minutes away, had no friends in my town, and I had asked him numerous times to stay away from my house? My male roommate woke up and the ex took off after grabbing one of my roommate’s books off a living room shelf. When I texted him about the rabbit, he said I was overreacting and that he just brought it as a present because people like rabbit, and said he was just there to get “his book”. I was a vegetarian at the time. I still won’t eat rabbit.


#20 Remember, People, Don’t Date Your Coworkers

She worked at the same place I did, and after I broke up with her, she told everyone I cheated on her (I didn’t) with an intern we called ‘gums’ because when she laughed all you could see was her gums.

For a few months, everyone believed her.

A few months later, I almost got fired when my new boss went crazy in a meeting. I didn’t know why. Two days later, it turns out she is dating my boss. She told him all sorts of lies and he decided to get back at me in this meeting.


#19 That’s A Harsh Realization

We were a couple for seven years, talked about marriage after her kids graduated from college. One night, she dumped me out of the blue. Three years later, she’s engaged to the guy she dumped me for, and posted online about how wonderful her anniversary dinner was one night.

The date of her anniversary dinner was over two weeks before she dumped me.


#18 And After All That Trouble…

My Chinese ex (who was an exchange student), my first sweetheart and love during senior year in high school, agreed to study in Florida with me for college. I went to Saint Leo University; she went to the Art Institute of Fort Lauderdale. I would try to visit her every weekend. I would drive for five hours straight to just spend one night or two with her. One day, I decided to visit her in the middle of the week. Long story short, her roommate told me she has been hanging out with another guy and that she asked the room to herself a few times apparently with the guy. Her roommate told me she was at the library that night so I went to go talk to her. I found her there with the other guy holding hands. She saw me, got up, but I made a 180-degree turn and left. I didn’t even have enough money to get back until Thursday because I spent all my money going from my school to her. I had to sleep in my car (an RX8 which is a tight fit) and had to suffer through 25 missed calls and numerous text messages which I deleted on the spot and didn’t read. When I was driving back, I cried to the song, “You Make Me Feel Like” by Cobra Starship. I started smoking that week and three years later, I still am.


#17 More Damage Than Physical

She broke into my house and destroyed a lot of stuff that belonged to my new girlfriend. Mind you, she broke up with me, and the new girlfriend I met after we broke up. The stuff she ruined was a lot of clothes and some makeup. I couldn’t give you a monetary value but the invasion of privacy was a big deal.


#16 What A Horrible Way To Celebrate Christmas

I was two hours away, buying my son Christmas presents at Toys R Us (it was the closest one). This was a big deal to me because I was finally on a (somewhat) upward trajectory in life after being a completely useless young adult for the last couple of years. My son was three, and this was the first year I was able to actually go and shop for presents for him, instead of relying on family to provide gifts as I made ends meet.

Well, I am blissfully shopping away when she had her dad come to the apt we shared. They proceeded to load the trailer he brought with almost all of the contents of my apartment (I was a poor 20-year-old).

I have no clue this is happening until a neighbor calls and fills me in. Just so happened that a blizzard starts in at this time, delaying me getting home before they have high-tailed it out of there.

I arrive home to find they went so far as to take the toilet paper off the holders in both bathrooms, along with finding the couple hundred dollars I had hidden in case of emergency.

Turns out, that weekend, she used that money to buy a plane ticket to fly her and my son 1100 miles away to her mom’s house. Also turns out, she was pregnant with my second son.

I have never met the second one, and have not seen the other one in seven years now.


#15 Stalkers Are Scary

As the relationship was winding down she made copies of all my keys (unbeknownst to me), stalked me for months (unbeknownst to me), hired a private detective to find out about a new girl I was seeing (unbeknownst to either of us). Proceed to break a window at my house and climb through said window in an effort to confront the new girl about “if you want him, have him” and then me for changing the locks on my house without telling her (my place was broken into and I had the locks changed). Two days later asking for another chance after which I received a call from her boyfriend asking me what was going on and to leave her alone. Literally some of the strangest conversations I have ever had.


#14 Who Even Has The Time For This?

I dated a woman for three years. Let’s call her Demanda. We lived together. Grew apart. I thought the breakup went fairly smoothly. I agreed to pay for the apartment for the remainder of the lease (about a month and a half), and I went to stay with my bandmates.

I came back a few days later to grab some of my things and the whole apartment was wrecked. She ripped all of the pages out of my textbooks, burned them in a trash can, and scattered the ashes all over the couch. All of my DVDs were shattered and placed neatly back inside their cases and on the shelf. She wrote vulgarities all over my paintings, slashed them, emptied my paint tubes on the floor, and cut the bristles off of my brushes. She cut the strings on my friend’s guitar and scratched “cheater, liar” on the body. I didn’t cheat or lie.  She took a hammer to my gaming PC, the fat grey Gameboy I’ve had since I was eight, my NES and SNES, all of my toys, some flower pots that once housed some really nice shrubberies, and both of my cameras. My comic book collection was ripped to shreds. My clothes were cut into ribbons. My N64 and Wii and all of the games were missing (likely pawned). She smashed my glass desk. The cats went unfed, and she left a turd for me unflushed in the toilet.


#13 She Probably Shouldn’t Have Brought A Cop

She took all my shower stuff while I was at work. Curtain, rod, all that stuff… and the toilet bowl scrubber. She took all that, I came home and said “okay, not letting her take more of my stuff that’s actually important!’ ” so I changed the locks. Went to work that night, she calls and says she needs in the apartment to get her things. I tell her nah, not without me there, I don’t want you taking my stuff. She says she’ll call the cops, and I tell her to go ahead. Cops show up at my work and ask what’s going on. I show them my lease with her name not on it, and they say okay, we’ll have her come back tomorrow, call us when she shows up. She comes the next day, and tells me she’s taking my bed (~$700). I tell her no, she didn’t pay for it, and I have my credit statement printed ready to show the cop. She tries arguing she’s taking the bed. Cop says, “Look, you’re not taking it, if you think you deserve it, take him to court”. Tries arguing with the cop then. Cop says, “Did you not hear me right? Take him to court!”. Didn’t hear back from her about it.


#12 Bet He Didn’t Sleep That Night

We agreed that she’d collect her stuff from “our” place when we broke up, without me being there. I arrived later that evening to find two gas-valves opened, so I guess I’m lucky I didn’t light a candle.


#11 That’s A Little Extreme

I once broke up with a girl over the phone. At that time she was in Mexico City (working) and I was in Michigan. She was living in California originally. She immediately caught the very next flight to MI and said: “You’re not breaking up with me.”


#10 Super Bail

Years ago (late 90’s), found out my girlfriend that I was living with for a year was sleeping with her boss. It was the week of our Super Bowl party. We both had plenty of guests coming. Been planning it for over a month. She pulled me aside and broke up with me on the Friday before that weekend. I saw it coming. She left to the beach (with my boss) and told me to move on Super Bowl weekend.


#9 The Texts Say It All

Went to all our mutual friends and told them that I cheated on him and he dumped me for it. Tried to tell my best friend the same thing. Pretty much tried his hardest to turn everyone against me.

All I did was show them the screenshots of his text messages with another girl which were filled with dirty pictures and plans on meeting up.


#8 There’s Nothing Worse Than This

Called me at 3 AM so I could hear his three-year-old crying for me.


#7 Way To Be Obsessive, We’re Breaking Up

After the third date, I left to go back to London as an au-pair. The guy had his sister send me a traditional African wedding dress to my host family, and a letter stating that she was so happy for us and hoped I would visit her in Mali. He then had his friends and brother call me and berate me for breaking up with him, had them say I could not possibly do that because his parents had already bought the plane tickets to come to see me before the wedding, and then tried to stick me with the costs for said tickets.

I changed my cell phone number and had the host family say that I had gone back home and they had no forwarding address.


#6 Don’t Call Her Out On Her Nonsense Again

I met this girl over the Internet on one of those stupid social sites. She lived in the same country as me and has roughly the same musical taste as me, so I thought: “Why not” and met her. She was nice and we fell in love as much as pre-teens can love and had a relationship for about 11 months. She went through lots of depression and accused me of a lot of things. Eventually, she broke up with me because she was “not sure I wasn’t going to cheat on her”. I was honestly kinda glad to be rid of her, but that wasn’t the end of it. She called me a few days later because she wanted me back, but I was sick of her nonsense and told her so.

Rule one of crazy people: do not call anything they do nonsense. I had a few days of relative calm with just a bunch of angry texts, guilt trips, etc. Four days after calling her behavior nonsense, it was my half-day at school, so I got home early and had the house to myself. There was a knocking at the door and since I was waiting for a package I didn’t think much of it. I opened the door.

Next thing I know, I am standing with my back pressed against the door I hastily close again, my shirt red with blood. My ex came to bring me a visit, but had taken with her a sharpened hockey stick. I luckily only opened the door a bit and have relatively fast reflexes so what otherwise would’ve been a deep cut through my throat was merely a flesh wound.


#5 So, The Devil Is Real

Stole my laptop and started putting pictures of herself as a young girl (like 13 or so) and called the cops. I had already reported it stolen, though, and it’s a pretty trivial process to show when a picture is added to a computer. That and the fact that she admitted that she took it from my home got me off the hook.


#4 Come On, It’s A Little Bit Funny

She created a profile for me on some gay dating site saying something like “Hi, I’m 22 and looking for my first time with a man, “I want to try everything!”. It had pictures of me and everything. I got a lot of emails but it still took a while to figure out where they were coming from. Worst thing is that I couldn’t get it taken down… I had to abandon that email address.


#3 They’d Go To The Ends Of The Earth For You… Unfortunately

We were living together at the time. I received a great job offer on the west coast (we were on the east coast at the time), called her to talk about it. She changed the locks, sold my stuff, wrote a nasty letter to my mother, and contacted the company to tell them why they shouldn’t hire me.

I took the job and moved anyway. She kept contacting the HR department. She moved to the same area about three months later. Every once in a while, I would see her car in the office parking lot. It finally stopped when I sued her.


#2 That’s One Way To Stay In Their Life

I had a buddy who’s ex, upon breaking up, raced him back to his OWN house, got there first, and then proceeded to lock herself in HIS room for several days. I don’t even think she talked much while there. She would just sneak out at night time to use the bathroom. Buddy’s kind-hearted, Christian parents fed her by sliding flat foods like bologna and pancakes under the door.


#1 Hitting A Man While He’s Down

Five years ago I broke it off with a “fine” young lady after just a six-month relationship. However, a week later come to find out that it was not exactly over for her and she had been keeping an eye on me, to make sure I’m ok I guess. Keep in mind she lived on the complete opposite side of a major city too, so some dedication was needed here.

I was forced to confront after she calls me freaking out about who I was hanging out with because I wasn’t home at night. This was more than unsettling, and I see she’s in front of my house at about two in the morning.

After a very heated argument, her physically attacking me, biting me after I bear hugged her (still have the scar), I demanded her to leave me alone and never come back. So, she gets in her car and peels out off into the distance.

That relief was very short lived, as soon as I thought she was gone she turns around and floors it going 60ish in a quiet neighborhood, swerves to run me over, I have to dive out of the way to avoid the car, she slammed into my neighbors car so hard that it spins out into the middle of the street, and all I can hear is her crazy ass screaming. Her middle consul catches on fire and I have to pull her dumbass out of the car, shortly after all the neighbors are awake and the place is swarming with cops and other emergency vehicles… This is burned into my memory