People Reveal The Secret They Learned About Their S.O. That Made Them Rethink Everything
When you’re in a serious relationship with someone, married or otherwise, one of the core bonding elements is trust. You have to trust that they are honest with you about who they are, what they do, and how they think. That’s why finding out a secret that they have, regardless of whether or not they meant it to be a secret, feels like a betrayal. Some secrets are innocent, but others are quite serious, and may leave a person wondering if they even know who they fell in love with in the first place.
These internet users share all kinds of secrets they learned about their partner, and they range from gushy, positive things to downright disgusting behavior. Some might even leave you wondering if your own partner is hiding something from you.
#1 Living A True Double Life
It turned out, he had gotten married over the weekend to the girl who had given birth to his child. I never knew about her.
#2 A Dirty Past Will Come Up Sooner Or Later
#3 The Matter Of Credit
Her terrible credit score.
I guess I never had a reason to ask until it came time to buy our home.
Guess who’s name the house is in?
#4 A Pathological Liar Or Utterly Delusional
She would lie about tiny, inconsequential things. It made me question my own perception of truth and self-instinct. Eventually, I caught her in a lie, and she denied it even when presented with full proof. It wasn’t something huge, but it was something that opened my eyes a little.
#5 When His Plans Take A 180 Degree Turn
Out of nowhere, after a year of being married, he said he wanted to join the Marine Corp. He also wanted me to drop out of law school, birth his babies, take care of his mother, and a run a household all while he was deployed. Hard pass.
#6 A Secret Son
#7 This Guy Is The Ultimate Manipulator And Creep
I found a hidden folder on his phone. He blackmailed girls for their nudes and also stole nudes from others. He pretended to be someone else and sent dirty messages to them. He constantly made me feel like I was crazy or overreacting.
#8 How A Person Treats People On The Road Says A Lot About Them
#9 He’s The Kind Of Guy Who Was In Musicals
Never figured out why it threw her so much, but that was that and it never bothered her again.
#10 A Pile Of Lies
#11 Sealing The Deal About Having Kids
Three years into my relationship with my fiancé, we were at a cookout and there was a little girl there. He was running around playing with her, being goofy, playing tag, and he was just so, so good with her. It occurred to me I had never seen him interact with a child before. He lit up in such an amazing way and that’s when I realized I absolutely want to have kids with this guy.
#12 Managing Mental Illness Is A Necessity
#14 Suddenly All His Ticks Just Clicked Into Place
He is always willing to meet me halfway, even when he doesn’t understand why something bothers me. He acknowledges how I feel and he stops doing whatever it is that is bothering me. He is the goofiest, most eccentric ball of love I have ever met, and coming to terms with his Aspergers has made me love him even more.
#15 Now That’s A Weird Secret To Keep
#16 Classic Projection
#17 He Went From Measured Lover To Hopeless Romantic
Well, we’ve been married for just over three years now and I’ve discovered he has the heart of a poet. He is far more sappy and romantic than I ever was.
He will make an effusive declaration about how beautiful he finds me or how much he adores me, and it catches me by surprise each time. It still blows me away how much he blossomed and the way he shared with me a side of himself that wasn’t very apparent for a long time. Every time I think of it, I blush a little thinking about how wonderfully silly he is. It further cements my conviction that I am the luckiest woman in the world.
#18 Old Lies Die Hard
#19 The “Act” Of Faith
#20 Not The Most Husbandly Thing To Do
It sure would have been nice to find something like that out before the wedding… But nope, a week after my daughter was born, I stumbled on the news.
#21 She Never Realized That He’s Lucky To Just Be Alive
#22 Her Weird Habit Blew His Mind
She gets in the shower before turning the water on.
#23 Talk About A Closet 90’s TV Series Fanatic
#24 Swimming Isn’t For Everyone
After a few seconds, I realized she was nowhere to be found. I went back up to find her thrashing around like a small blonde bobber in rough seas. She said something about not feeling well because she had accidentally swallowed a bunch of water through the snorkel. I helped her back on the boat and sat her down. She was looking a bit green around the gills but she was okay. She waved me off, telling me to get back in the water. So off I went thinking she’d join me when she felt better. She never got back in.
We returned from our vacation and three weeks later we were kind of rehashing the snorkeling incident. A lightbulb valiantly lit up in my head. After 30 years with her, I never knew she didn’t know how to swim!
#25 They Missed Out On Years Of Fandom Together
#26 One Very Good Reason To Change To An Open Marriage
I’m lucky. Many women find out while the kids are still at home or after 30 years of marriage. We have been married seven years and I’m really open-minded when it comes to stuff like this.
Actually, he’s the lucky one!
#27 The Kind Of Love Dreams Are Made Of
We were together for two years and I was going through depression. I thought that no one cared; I only saw the bad in people, including my girlfriend. I was thinking of leaving her.
Later that day, I was in my bed just staring at the ceiling and she came home from work. When I asked her why she wasn’t at the office, she told me that she asked for a day off just to stay with me. She prepared hot chocolate and bought my favorite cookies.
We just sat there, having hot chocolate and cookies and watching Doctor Who.
That day, I understood that she did care, more than anyone else. I decided to marry her.
My depression is mostly gone thanks to her. I am a very lucky man.
#28 The Truth About Unicorns
#29 If You’re Judgmental And You Know It, Clap Your Hands
#30 He Was Living Another Life Right Under Her Nose
#31 Selfishness Runs In The Family
And then, all of the arguing about things that she didn’t understand, and all of her selfish moments, reached a moment of perfect clarity, and I decided that I had to get out of there.
#32 Not The Job He Thought She Had
The club she claimed to be a bartender at was actually a gentleman’s club that she danced at. Sadly, I found out through a friend. Super embarrassing when you find out through a friend that your girlfriend is an adult dancer.
#33 The Humanitarian Of The Year
#34 A Serious Case Of Road Rage
Honestly, he always had anger issues and he promised to me that he wouldn’t have road rage like that ever again, but it really changed the way I saw him.
#35 Not One But Eight Secret Children
This happened to my mom. A few years into their marriage, my dad said he needed to tell her something. He told her that she needed to promise not to get mad, which obviously made her mad. He proceeded to tell her he has eight children back in his home country, the youngest of which is just one year older than me. My mom said she just didn’t know what to feel anymore. Needless to say, the marriage didn’t work out. He cheated on her repeatedly throughout the entire time they were together.
#36 So Much For All That Science In Her Life
#37 He’s Too Close To Mommy
#38 For The Love Of Pets
But he cuddles with everyone else’s so I’m still hoping.
#39 Not The Man She Thought He Was, Literally
#40 The Hairy Truth Comes Out At Long Last
We’ve been married for nine years now. We’ve grown up together. Graduated together. Traveled together. We know each other so well and have nothing to hide from one another. Or so I thought.
This all changed one day. I was feeding our kids’ lunch and she was in the bathroom. Unbeknownst to her, she did not lock the door. When I walked in on her, I witnessed something that I never thought I would see. Something that lived in the back of my head, but I didn’t think it could be real…
She was shaving her upper lip. She is Puerto Rican and has a little peach fuzz that you can’t even really notice, but she was shaving it like it was a full on mustache! She looked at me with this embarrassed look and I thought to myself… “What else is she hiding?”
I don’t know that I’ll ever look at her the same again.
#41 With Values Like Those, It’s No Wonder He Hid Them
When I had my first child, the pregnancy wasn’t a surprise or an accident. We talked about it and planned it out. He got a little overbearing during the pregnancy, like insisting on breastfeeding without even discussing it with me. I chalked it up to new dad nerves, not knowing any better.
But that was only the tip of the iceberg. He believed that children were completely and totally a wife’s responsibility. He wouldn’t change a diaper. He wouldn’t pick up the baby when it cried. He wouldn’t get up in the middle of the night. He expected me to work a full-time job, plus do all the parenting.
At that point, I was confused and appalled but I told myself he just needed time to adjust.
I realized how delusional I was when the baby got sick while he was on a fishing trip. The doctors thought the baby had meningitis. I called and asked him to come home. He refused. He’d paid for two more days of fishing. He didn’t want to lose the money.
#42 An Unlikely Skill Set
I found out that my heavy-metal-loving, dry, sarcastic, funny, trendy, skateboarding, tradie 35-year-old boyfriend knows how to BUILD AND SAIL YACHTS!
It’s just so totally the opposite of what you would imagine he’d be into when you look at him.
I didn’t really re-evaluate much but I did ask myself, do I really know him at all?